Emotional Breakdown

This past Saturday night, my Boyfriend and I got into a fight. It was basically about me offering to take his dad out to get some food or pay for his gas so that my Boyfriend could borrow his dad's car to come and see me. But my Boyfriend told me no and that his dad was pissed off at him. In the end he told me to shut the F up I replied by saying fine.

Since that fight we stopped talking to one another it's now the third day without talking to one another and I am really worried. Does my Boyfriend still love, care, or even miss me? When will he contact me again? Does this mean we're done?

Another thing to take note of is that he is dealing with a lot of problems of his own, such as his grandma taking away all of his money and telling him that if he even asks to use any of it that he will be kicked out of the house. Another being that he doesn't have any job at the current time, nor does he have a car or any money.

So I am wondering what is going to happen here. Somebody please help me.

Things are said sometimes in the heat of the moment, without thinking of how it will affect the other person. With that being said, I am taken aback by him dropping the "f" bomb on you as well as telling you to shut up. Granted, I do not know you or your situation. But from one person to another, you should never be told that under any circumstances by anyone.

It could be that your boyfriend has many problems that are causing him great stress and he is taking it out on you. Again, that is something no one should have to be dealing with from anyone. And I hate to say it but the only one that can tell you how he feels is him. Have you contacted him since the argument?

Bottom line is do you want to be with someone that would tell you to shut the F*&% up? I certainly would not! Bf sounds like he's going through a lot, but that does not give him the right to speak to you in that way. Verbal abuse is never ok.

Have you thought about how belittling it may have been for him to have you basically pay his father so he could come to see you? Ouch! especially when his grandmother controls his finances like that.

He probably feels useless and hopeless because he doesn't have a job and he isn't his own master. His grandmother is abusing him mentally, emotionally and financially, and his girlfriend is emasculating him by trying to bribe or pay his father so he can visit her (this could be in his mind).

Maybe giving him a call and saying "hey I didnt think, I just wanted you here with me" that may help him to feel a little better. Imagine how you would feel if everyone around you had a controlling interest in your life but you? If everyone had a say in what you did and where you went, but you didn't?

If it were me I'd backpeddle a little and ask him if he wanted me to go visit him instead. Most people feel the need to control their own life and the details of it particularly if there are other people taking charge and belittling them the way grandmother has. He wouldn't be wanting another woman to try to control him.

Just be kind and gentle with him without apologising too much and see what happens. Hopefully he will understand that you didn't realise that it would hurt or cause him any pain,

Good luck,

Rhiannon