[lost-soul]

I'm very patient person and i always tried to be patient, oh Mamma mia!, but this is really getting into my nerve.

okay this is how it goes. i live with my aunt and i don't know if she really does it on purpose.

first of all, i don't know how to cook so she cooks the food for us.
(im thankful for that. lol)

well anyways, when she has works, she brings food at work. of course when she eats at work she doesnt use serving spoon. when she gets home, she includes the food that she brought, to the food that we eat. (just imagine the saliva, so i dont eat).

last time, she got sick, when she cooked food, she tasted it and she put back and forth the spoon.

then, last time i saw her that she uses the towel for hands to wipe her lips when we were done eating. i just ignore it. Im asking myself why cant she just use the paper towel? she still keeps wiping on the towel.

then last time i saw her that she blowed her nose in the towel. and i said "hey auntie why did you blow your nose there, we're wiping our hands there?" i said to a voice like im teasing to avoid conflict then, she said she didnt (i just saw her!) and she laughed. then i told her to please not to do it cause we both wiped our hands there. then, after a few days i saw her again doing it blowing her nose on the towel.

i tried to be patient still cause she's old and i dont want that we both fighting, but i use the towel to eat. i mean i eat with my hands (no spoon and fork) when i am eating dried fish.

can you imagine eating yourself with a mucus in the nose?

then, last time again she includes all the food, i mean the left over foods? i requested her many times already to please not include all the food together, but she still does. she puts them all together. our food last few weeks ago to the new food. we can get food borne! hell yes!...

she said she all categorized/group them or whateva. sometimes she goes to the bathroom after peeing without washing her hands. or touching the sink without washing her hands with soap. then she picks up the food and include them all. its okay if i didnt see that she is doing it, but the problem is she does in front of me.

im annoyed cause her daughter doesn't want to eat it and me neither. so i told her last time that we (her daughter and me) dont eat it because she includes them all.

last time we argue because i told her that "she includes all the food because she doesnt want me to eat." and i think she does on purpose because she notices me that i dont eat that food when she includes all the food. and then she got mad at me and she said, "do you think that im that bad?" so the question is if she knows that i dont like it, but why does still always doing it right? so she does it on purpose right.

actually, i am not germo conscious before. but when i took my biology class, just a pinch of saliva in the mouth, i can see a lot of bacteria in the microscope. then, i learned about food borne so i become very conscious being cleaned.

i know she thinks that im so mean because of that, but i cant help myself thinking about those bacteria that going inside my body. and honestly, im freaking out. im not disgusted to her because i love her, she is nice, but cant really tolerate the bacteria

i know she is gossiping me to her sister that im bad, but what else can i do? right?

am i right/wrong?

well anyways thanks for listening. i just mad at myself, because of my cleanliness whateva...


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[bridgie]

could you use a different towel so you dont have to share then you are taking control of your own germs. also could you take a class to learn to cook so you can help make things for yourself, not be so dependent. also we need germs to help us build our immune systems. there are some that you have to be carefull for so i undertand the hand washing and mucus. just remember you cant change her and her habits but you can change you and how you handle the situation.

[Yoda]

How old is your aunt? When we were growing up my grandparents didn't have running water so we had a bucket that we kept in the kitchen for drinking. We didn't use cups. It had a ladle in it and everybody would fill the ladle, drink from it and return it to the bucket of water. If your aunt is accustomed to doing that it probably has never occurred to her to do differently.

I agree with bridgie that you need to learn to cook.

[lost-soul]

@ bri, thanks for the advice. well i use another towel for me now. @ 1st she kinda mad because she's thinking that i'm thinking that she is dirty and its is killing me softly cause i think i am offending her, but i cant help myself avoiding germs.
now, i guess she accepts it and its okay with her.

[lost-soul]

@ yoda. thanks for your story. it mademe understand her. probably she didnt do it in purpose then. maybe she is accustomed to it and maybe i just need to accpet it and understand. i try to be patient as always.

yeah im trying to cook now it requires in my job.

[Mama_Dukes]

I understand why you are getting grossed out! I would too. I am not sure but it sounds like she might be doing it to get your reaction but I agree with the others you need to do some of your own cooking and maybe even get a small fridge in your room where you can put leftovers.