[Psyclox]

This to all the women on this site if a guy you knew who also happened to be your closest friend was in love with you and you knew that but didn't return his love but instead said that you can only see him as a friend but in time he is more in your life than before then he starts buying the things that really make you and he really does make your day every time you speak to him and sms him and then he goes all out on your birthday to make it the most special day of your life would yopu love him in the end? And here is another question I would like to ask what is when the person you love always talks to you and only you at a party and then she puts her arm through yours and rests her head on your shoulder plus what does it mean when they their arm through yours and rests their head on your shoulder, and always asks you what they would do without you and that you are always there for them and that they will always care about you? These are the question that plague my mind all the time cause that is what Brenda always tells me so what do they mean I would really love to know.

[kimmydawn]

((((((((psyclox))))))))

her actions could be one of a young woman who cares...as a friend, or as more.

what you've said she says, i've said to friends as well. i would ask her what her intent is and if her feelings might be changing. it sounds like she's been pretty honest with you thus far.

i hope you have a wonderful day.

kd

[SpazKatt]

I have this situation... He really is my best friend I know he's in love with me. He's told me, I feel badly though because he's a wonderful guy and so sweet yet I'm not attracted to him at all. Basically for me I like to be close to him and hug him and stuff, because of my need for physical contact with another human being. Growing up my family was very close and hugged and touched all the time. I have family love for him, and that means he gets hugs and touches from me. Sometimes when I've had a hard day I just want him to hold me...it's comforting, it's because he makes me feel safe. Sometimes I feel badly about doing those things because they may confuse him... anyhow, I'm not saying Brenda feels the same way I do. The only way to know for sure is to ask her, if you're such good friends it will be ok no matter what the outcome. *HUGS*

[Acajin]

My experience has been that women give sex for affection and men give affection for sex. But wouldn't it be great if a woman could get affection from a man without having to give sex. I have a couple a relationships like yours and this is how I understand it. It does my self-esteem wonders to be able to handle these relationships in this way.

My two cents

Jp

I'm going to go against the grain here. (Nothing new.)
I feel the best romantic relationships form from very strong friendships.
She may like the idea of your being in love with her and wishes to keep it that way without any obligations on her part.
I know this sounds devious but throw a wrench into the machine.
My sister had the same kind of friendship with her husband. He was in love with her but she felt no chemistry for him.
One night they were at a bar together and he was dancing with a woman and she felt incredibly jealous. That's how they ended up getting together.
The same thing happened with an old friend with a man who was in love with her.

Maybe you could try moving away a little and fix your interest on another woman. I mean, stay friends with her but stop the violins from playing when she's around.

It's the oldest trick in the book. I know- but it worked with 2 couples I know and they are both now married.

If it doesn't work and she calls you on it then more then likely she'll be charmed by it. You lose nothing you don't have now.
Just a sneaky little plan. Hehehe