Withdrawing from a new friend :(

Hi everyone! Ever since James and Eric have rejected me im having very low self esteem. Now a very caring and gud guy is being friends with me. We knew each other a bit in childhood and and have come across each other now.

The problem is that i dont want to trust him as i did james n he left me. James used to say that he will never ever leave me, no matter what! I doubted it and when i finally believed he was telling the truth,he left me.

Im not sure but i might be having bipolar. Yesterday i was very tense bcoz of personal (career) issues and i dunno what got into my mind and i started saying same stupid silly thngs to this new guy which i used to say to james two years ago,that is, it would be better if we dont talk,u deserve a better friend,etc.

My T once told me that i must give a fair chance to every person and i shouldnt compare them with those who left. That T now works in a different hospital and i cant go to him or any other therapist,so therapy is not an option for me. What should i do about this guy? Shud i give him a chance to get close to me or should i flee and back out?

Any opinion will be greatly appreciated by me.
By the way,he said to me that he wants to stay friends with me,but again thats what james used to say too.

Sure, give him a chance! You can't compare everyone to James. Forget that guy. How are you ever going to meet anyone if you compare everyone to him? Give this guy a chance -- but take it slowly. Don't get into a relationship immediately -- just be friends for awhile until you get to know him, and are able to establish COMPLETE trust in him. You don't want to get hurt. And if he DOES want to have a relationship, just tell him that you're coming off a big hurt, and you want to take it slow. Tell him that you have trust issues right now, and that's why you have to take it slow.

Good luck Jiakhan -- I wish you all the luck. God bless. Lee

Relationships ebb and flow... I think trully that some people are brought into our lives to teach, provide comfort and love for a certian time frame... The break ups are hard and giving your trust again is difficult (I still haven't found a way to do it).
Give this guy a go! take it slowly and surely and see what happens. If you are meant to have a romantic relationship then it will happen if you allow your heart to be in the right place at the right time.

I don't think that what experienced were Bi-polar symptoms...As I understand it, Bi-Polar usually encompasses a manic time, true highs without fear or knowledge of the consquenses - you were just trying to keep your self protected.

There must be something wrong with me. When someone is giving me some attention im trying hard to back off. Argh. Am i even normal?

He is gud guy but im so afraid of getting hurt once again.

everything you are feeling is natural!! just give yourself time xx

Today i've told him off. He has been so caring lately to the limit of being irritating. Though he is handsome and nice and is not seeing other girls(or so he says) i dont think im ready for an intimate relationship with this or any other guy. I think i need time for healing.

Wise words xx