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Oct 10, 2005, 10:16 AM
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cut a long story short my husband left back in june between that and aug he had a relationship with the female that was my best friend she was causing trouble before he left when she told him it was over at the beginning of aug he spent the week hanging out with me and his brother then she contacted him again
at the end of the week i tried to kill my self (she lives next door to me )as soon as she thought he was interested in sorting things out with me she took him back and then within two weeks he contacted me again and told me he thought there relationship was all one sided on his side , i kept in contact with him and 2 and 1/2 wks later she told him that she loved him and have a nice day at work and when he got to work she txt ed him it was over , he took a overdose and nearly died since then i spent as much time with him trying to help him we even stated a relationship up but the last week he s become even more depressed withdrew from me and told me he wants closure with her , we been marrid nearly 14yrs togeather 16yrs 2 children togeather and hes raised my 2 girls from previous relationship , hes visted me today but while i was out he sent her a txt waiting a response , im hanging in there as i hope this is part of his depression and when hes starts to get better he might realise what obsessing over her telling him what went wrong ,as this is controlling his life shes moved on and shes the sort of female that enjoys over ppls unhappiness so shes enjoying this , im confused because from one week to the next hes gone from wanting to be a family again to just friends is he trying to protect us from what might come of this contact as he knows i wont talk to her and the children arnt happy about it as well he told someone he doesnt want to hurt ppl or get hurt but hes hurting im hurting the children are hurting his mother isnt happy and the rest of his family dont know what to make of this.
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#2
Oct 10, 2005, 10:19 AM
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Sounds like a really tough situation. Hang in there, and try to take care of yourself as you sort all this out.
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Oct 10, 2005, 11:30 AM
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I would say if you and your hubby want to make it work then if at all possible you should move away from next door with this thing you call a woman. she is vial. get away from her
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Oct 10, 2005, 02:59 PM
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im not sure he does as he wont talk about anything with anybody he keeps trying to spend time with me but hes also trying to get friends from work to go out they either let him down or dont respond he never mixed with these ppl before he was poorly y is trying now they r younger than him and single hes not allowed back work yet hes to see doc again in 2 wks , when hes let down he becomes withdrawn or angry , i phoned him and all he done was snap at me then he came down sat and drank a coffee and then tried to cause a argument with me then left which at the same time i was upset for him and angry with wat he just done i took myself out in the car but i find this dangerous because my mind start racing and i might loose concentration so i thought i would write on here instead
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Oct 12, 2005, 07:14 PM
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just thought i would give you abit of back ground on my family as i have called them a disfunctional family,
my oldest daughter is 21 when she was 8ish they decided that she was add brilant a name y she was the way she was doc at time was brillant gave me notes to read as this was new here at the time not many ppl have heard about it she had to be educated in classes with extra help as she also has very big learning dificolties and behavioural problems she was allowed to take ritioin untill she reached 16yrs got her through education she is know on rispradol and tegertol retard these are used to stabalize her moods, my next child seemed fine untill she was 10yrs old they found out she had dyslexia, she learnt to cope with this and has gone on to collage and hopping to go to uni next year she is now 18yrs my olny boy is 14yrs but when he was about 3 1/2 noticed that he had some strange habits and behaviours and didnt settle at night we took him to see eldest daughters doc who tested him and diagnosed him with adhd he went on rition by the time he was 5 and the amount of meds we tried to get him to go to sleep was nobodys business we also got him checked out at the age of 7 for dyslexia but he was borderline he doesnt suffer with any learning dificulties when he turned 11 he was afraid ppl would tease him if he was on meds at school so doc tried him on concerta aslo he was put on risprdol for help with sleep for a whole mth im only allowed to give it to him now and again, hes getting there slowly but with our support and school support i think he will make it, my youngest is 11 she has no medical diagnoses but she is allways uo early and hardly sits still for long but its not her interferring with her education so im not worried about her she is very out going unlike the rest
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Oct 13, 2005, 10:08 PM
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my husband hasbeen spending the last 3days with us he seems lots better he like all ppl that have depression have low days or moments , but i am sure he now knows he is not alone ,so im counting down when he will be home and we can really be man and wife again , i know he loves his family and they love him but he kept telling me he has to love him self first so i hope hes realised wat a wonderfull person he really is
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