[NuckingFutz]

I've written for help and I read and I took it all in. I also wrote my sister about the situation. Guess what boys and girls?! I'm moving to Vegas pronto.

My "significant other" can only be happy when I'm happy. If I go down into a depression, well, let's just say I'm on my own. He actually told me many times that he's loved me, but I asked if he meant that in bad times as well as good and he said he didn't know. That to me says, I only love you when you are happy and can make me happy.

He's talking to his ex with the door closed in the bedroom. And you know, this time it doesn't bother me at all. I know as soon as I leave, he will be back with her. He had his chance to get help and get healthy but hey, he blew it. Doesn't have anything to do with me, it's him and his inability to truely love someone.

In my sister's email she said how we can make this work and I agreed. I still have my old place to pack up and then they will move me to Vegas. I can find an apartment through the VA has soon as I get a job and stay with her in the meantime.

It was a nice little romance until everything was sexualized "honey, I'm just feeling depressed so I'm going to go masterbate". Hey, now there's a solution, not.

I've had enough.

Maybe you all are thinking that this isn't happening fast enough, but with his ex a stalker and him needing years more of therapy until he can be part of a healthy relationship, it isn't going to work.

He told me not to make him choose between her and me, and well, hey, that statement says it all.

Counselor says not to say anthing and go on as if everything is fine until the moment that moving van arrives and I get on that airplane.

It feels good not to hurt over her. Besides I did some digging on this pedofile/victim relationship, and in some cases, the long term cases (which this one was) the tie and the bond do not break.

I can start Animal Companion Care in Vegas as well...my grantor is a national chair on petstores. They will even give me funds for a car for delivery of the animal food (I've been shipping it out via the postal service because I don't have a car yet).

So I am following my heart to Vegas and not blowing wind up anyone's skirts...this is in the works. The movers are scheduled, just got packing to do and have my friend Will take care of the girls while I move and get a new apartment up there.

There is no way I could stay in a relationship like this. That would entail stepping back in my therapy about 10 steps. He's not worth it. He has been twisted and warped beyond anything I am willing to do to help him.

Well darlings, I will keep you abreast of my progress and when I get to Vegas, you all will still be there for me...cyber love, your cyber love...to know we don't have to part.

Originally Posted by NuckingFutz

I've written for help and I read and I took it all in. I also wrote my sister about the situation. Guess what boys and girls?! I'm moving to Vegas pronto.

My "significant other" can only be happy when I'm happy. If I go down into a depression, well, let's just say I'm on my own. He actually told me many times that he's loved me, but I asked if he meant that in bad times as well as good and he said he didn't know. That to me says, I only love you when you are happy and can make me happy.

He's talking to his ex with the door closed in the bedroom. And you know, this time it doesn't bother me at all. I know as soon as I leave, he will be back with her. He had his chance to get help and get healthy but hey, he blew it. Doesn't have anything to do with me, it's him and his inability to truely love someone.

In my sister's email she said how we can make this work and I agreed. I still have my old place to pack up and then they will move me to Vegas. I can find an apartment through the VA has soon as I get a job and stay with her in the meantime.

It was a nice little romance until everything was sexualized "honey, I'm just feeling depressed so I'm going to go masterbate". Hey, now there's a solution, not.

I've had enough.

Maybe you all are thinking that this isn't happening fast enough, but with his ex a stalker and him needing years more of therapy until he can be part of a healthy relationship, it isn't going to work.

He told me not to make him choose between her and me, and well, hey, that statement says it all.

Counselor says not to say anthing and go on as if everything is fine until the moment that moving van arrives and I get on that airplane.

It feels good not to hurt over her. Besides I did some digging on this pedofile/victim relationship, and in some cases, the long term cases (which this one was) the tie and the bond do not break.

I can start Animal Companion Care in Vegas as well...my grantor is a national chair on petstores. They will even give me funds for a car for delivery of the animal food (I've been shipping it out via the postal service because I don't have a car yet).

So I am following my heart to Vegas and not blowing wind up anyone's skirts...this is in the works. The movers are scheduled, just got packing to do and have my friend Will take care of the girls while I move and get a new apartment up there.

There is no way I could stay in a relationship like this. That would entail stepping back in my therapy about 10 steps. He's not worth it. He has been twisted and warped beyond anything I am willing to do to help him.

Well darlings, I will keep you abreast of my progress and when I get to Vegas, you all will still be there for me...cyber love, your cyber love...to know we don't have to part.

Your life is never boring lol Good luck to you !!!!

[NuckingFutz]

Oh Tishie, I love you and thanjk you for the support.

You know I feel stronger already?

[Perna]

I hope the exciting new changes keep getting better and better. Good luck and thanks for keeping us posted.

[salukigirl]

Isn't it nice to finally have that clarity? I can tell in your post that you feel free and clear now which is awesome. Hope everything works out for you!

[lynn P.]

Good for you (((NF))) - sounds like a good choice for you to be near your sister. I admire your strength is getting out before you've invested to much emotionally. I hope you like it there in Vegas. Best of luck and let us know when you're settled.

[El-ahrairah]

omg that is awesome futz! im so proud of you!!!! WOOO VEGAS! 8D