[supersteve0]

Over a month ago I broke with my gf. It was something that I wAnted to happen but it did. We haven't spoken since but I think about her everyday. I was pretty miserable with the whole situation but I moved forward like I always do. I worked hard and even tho it wasn't easy I tried to keep myself as focused as I could on other things so I could keel myself busy. I even managed to lose some weight and get healthier with my lifestyle. The problem I'm having is that I think about her every second that I'm not occupied which I know is part of moving on. So after awhile I started to feel good and I didn't think of her at all. What was weird is that this past weekend I got various signs that pointed me towards her. I believe in fate and in signs so when I got these signs I took them as reasons to call her but I haven't because I don't know if I should. I want to and these signs could be coincidence or it could be fate? Any advice would be great!

[Soul Quake]

Rather than being preoccupied with "fate" and "signs," perhaps the better thing to do is ask yourself is what intent you have for calling (is it a simply Hello, how are you doing? or asking her out?), what do you want to occur, and is that occurrence realistic? What do you think she'll feel if you start communicating once more? Do you see this benefiting both of you? Can you handle the emotional risk in possibly being disappointed if things do not go well? Will this cause you more difficulty in getting over her?

Just look out for yourself, and be sensitive to her as well.

[phlashback]

What is you intention? Do you want to reconcile (and is this something that she wants). I am just a month out of my relationship, and know where you are comming from. If you are anything like me, sometimes I will read to much in to things.

I would take into concideration what lead to your breakup... has there been a change that would correct that. I for one wish I could get my ex to stop calling me .

[supersteve0]

I haven't talked to her and I haven't called once. I can be pretty stubborn and I have a tendency to just delete people after a break up. I just can't seem to that with her. Honestly I would like to reconcile but what I really want is to be in her life even if its just as a friend. We've had breaks and she's always called or texted and we got.back together. I never am the first to call or text. It's like I can get past anyone else but not her. I love her and that's where I'm stuck.

[Leed]

How many times have your broken up before? And how many times have you gone back? Did you break up for the same reasons each time? if you got back together, do you think this time will be any different?? How long before you break up again? You need to ask yourself if this is going to be a permanent relationship or if you're just going to keep breaking up all the time. It's not healthy to keep putting yourself thru this kind of torture. Why go back to her if you're just going to break up again?

Maybe you should look for someone who is more stable, huh? Take care Steve, and God bless. Hugs, Lee