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Feb 02, 2011, 10:40 AM
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Hello, I am Megan I am 23 and the single mother of a 2.5 year. I have been seeing this guy, (not the father of my child) officially for 7 months, but we have been involved for over a year. Things were going great until he moved in with his best friend and his best friends wife. Now he is distant from me, has no interest in sex, Hardly touches me. That makes me feel like there is something wrong with me. When i talk to him about it he has told me he isn't as attracted to me as he once was, but he doesnt want to end the relationship. He just wants me to try and lose weight and well try more at being me. When we started dating i weighed the same as I do now, and it was never really an issue. But i know that the wife of his friend is super negative when it comes to weight and has constantly told me that i need to lose it, and I think she is nagging at him about me behind my back. I love him, but at the same time, it seems to me that he is more interested in them then me. He cares more about what they think then what i do. This is all very difficult for me. Does anyone have any advice other then ending the relationship. Because I am a diagnosed rapid cycle bipolar, and i just want to make sure that im not over reacting.
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Feb 02, 2011, 12:53 PM
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I don't think you are over-reacting at all. You have every reason to be upset with him. What you need to do is ask yourself if its worth changing yourself(losing the weight) for this man? Do you love him enough, to do that to get his attention again. He should love you for who you are, and not how much you weigh. I hope he turns around soon, because the way he's acting he's just pushing you farther away, and he's going to lose you, and I know you don't want that at all. I wish you the best /hug.
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Feb 03, 2011, 03:49 AM
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While i dont think you are over reacting, i disagree with vbbeeyoko.
No one should have to think - do i love him enough to loose weight. He should love you enough for who you are. I would say to him nicely but seriously - there is nothing wrong with my weight. In fact i weigh the same as when we met. You are making it sound like i m not good as i am and i d like you to stop that. If there is anything else going on that i should know about pleade tell me. Otherwise dont ever mention my weigh again. Wait and see what he says and reasses. A word of caution! be careful and pay attention to other signs of abusive personality. Trust your gut. |
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Feb 03, 2011, 09:40 AM
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i agree with "tat", there's no reason for you to lose weight unless u want to. it's your body! in relationships i feel we need to love the inner person, not the outer "shell", justme.
i find his recent actions perplexing that he can be swayed so easily to follow the other gal's opinion so readily. and what business is it of hers to to nag you about your weight? so does he really have a "backbone"? is this quality in him something you missed before? if so, i'd be wary. know you'd like to keep the relationship but is this just the tip of the iceberg of his true personality? imho, you are not overreacting at all. i'd be very uncomfortable if i experienced what is going on. there's a thing called a "triangle" in psychology. 2-3 ppl talking about the other 3rd or 4th person in a negative way behind the targeted person's back. it is considered very unhealthy.hope you can follow what i just referenced.  hugs. let us know how this all works out. we care. 
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Feb 03, 2011, 11:34 AM
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what mostly concerns me is that today is about the weight and tomorrow will be about something else....It's bad if people can affect his choices and his decisions like this....He should be proud of his choice and tell them to back off!
I suggest you to talk to him or email him and tell him that this is who you are and if he doesn't accept you like this then too bad..... I'm pretty sure he will apologize you....because you are so sweet and unique
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Feb 06, 2011, 11:42 PM
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