[Domm]

So my girl friend of 3 months has come to realize and some what accept that I have depression and self harm because of it. However she is furious over the fact that i talk out my problems and feelings with my best friend(female) of 3 years whose always been there for me. My gf has become even angrier and more threatening regarding my friend claiming she is a threat. I love my friend and I really like my gf but she wants me to stop talking to my friend. What should I do stop talking to my friend(she would understand),work it out with the gf, or find a new gf. I understand if this may be hard to get i was upset when writeing it xP

[alias123]

I don't think it is okay for your GF to treat you that way. Either she needs to change or you should probably walk. Unless this friend encourages you or enables you to harm yourself, there doesn't seem that there can be good reason for her behavior other than she wants to control you. If she were a man and you were a woman, it would send up the immediate red flags of an abusive relationship. (Actually, that is me making assumptions. Perhaps you are a girl with a girl.) Either way, whoever does it it is somewhat abusive to tell a person who they can speak to, and that kind of extreme jealousy, so early in the relationship is far from a good sign. It will likely only get worse.

[Leed]

No way should you give up your best friend. This isn't YOUR problem -- it's your girlfriend's problem. If she is so unstable that she can't understand a friendship between a male and a female, then she'd better take a hike. She has NO RIGHT to make you choose between her and your friend. I'd get rid of her, and find a girl who will accept the fact that you have a female as a best friend. That may be hard to find, but I'm sure there's one out there.

Best of luck and God bless. Hugs, Lee