[nice girl]

When my new best friend found out i had hurt myself.. She was Very upset.. She dint cry the whole while but i could see the little red lines in her eyes.. She told me of her previous friend who was very close to her and due to some reasons committed suicide... She is gone now but my friend still remembers her.. My friend said she felt she hasn’t been doing a very good job at being my friend maybe that’s why i try to find alternatives and do crazy things.. She said firstly people become close friends then they just go away. they don’t understand how people who have been left behind them feel..

The relatives with whom she’s staying are having major problems.. Then there’s me... and her school friends who are having problems... She doesn’t ever complain.. But i know she has problems too... I want to be there for her all the time...... Day before yesterday when she told me about her previously close friend who committed suicide... I felt bad like may be she’s too young to be overburdened with these problems.. May be i shouldn’t be there.. may be then she will be relieved.. That day I felt a big pang in my heart.. Like I’m good for nothing.. I will keep hurting these so special people in my life.. Why was i born to hurt them.. Why can’t i be a nice girl for once.. Just and just for once for her for my friend and the ones I love..!!
Later that night::
She gave me a very short miscall around 1.00 am.. So short that i wouldn’t have even noticed it had i been sleeping ... But I was awake... So I jumped out of my bed went to my balcony and gave her a call... She was crying... I asked her what happened... There is this one guy friend of hers with who she’s madly in love... So things were a little wrong with them... She said why things are always wrong.... She doesn’t understand....
The person whom she loves is using her and she’s letting that happen....
There is this whole world of people around her who have problems. Her brother’s having some major personal problems, her relatives, me, other friends,....
I want her to be happy..!!

[Warrioress]

Hi

I've been there and I know how terrible it feels. Friendship is a very important and precious thing, but there isn't one single person in the whole wide world who doesn't have problems. Sometimes your problems are bigger and sometimes your friend's. You have to be strong and wise. If you think your friend is feeling worse than you at the present time, ignore your own miseries. Let her talk; let her cry on your shoulder; listen to her. If there's anything you can do to help her, do it. If you have advice that you can give her, say it. If you can't do either, try to calm her down and let her know that you'll be there for her no matter what. It is more than likely that there will come a time when you need her more than she needs you. She will remember what you've done for her then and she'll do the same for you.

Btw, don't worry about being a nice girl. The fact that you care so much about your friend is proof that you are a really nice girl and a great friend. You just need to know how to act in certain situations

[Leed]

Warrioress is right. Being a good friend means that you put that FRIEND before yourself. Your problems are put on the back burner -- you put your friends problems first, before your own. That is what true friendship is -- so if you want to be a true friend - you have to forget about your problems and try to help HER. You can always take care of your problems when she is alright.

Besides, it makes you feel so much BETTER - to be able to do something for someone else -- and not ask anything in return. That is priceless. That soothes even the hardest heart. It could even make your problems go away. Helping other people just makes our own problems seem less important. We look at our problems differently when we help other people.

So help her first, and make sure she's ok. Then after you're sure she's alright, you can work on your problems. But DON'T do any more cutting. That doesn't solve anything sweetie -- and that will just add to your friends problems. Right?? Hugs, Lee

[nice girl]

Thanks a lot leed and Warrioress.. Also thanks a lot for listening avirup.. i will make sure to sort things out for her and then concentrate on my own.. i will try my best for my ownself too.. i promise Avirup..