[LoveHopeStrength14]

What is the best thing to say when so many different people keep coming up to you asking if we're together, have I've seen or talked to him recently? We've been broken up for almost 6 months now and I run into people all the time who knew us when we were together. I rather not have anyone ask me me at all about the relationship I once had but I can't control what others want to talk about. What annoys me the most is when I tell them that we're no longer together the first thing they tell me is: Oh I'm so sorry. No its a good thing that I'm no longer in that relationship and I am so much happier now. My response to them is: "Oh we've been broken up for awhile now and no I haven't talked to him and its been awhile since I've seen him. I am doing so much better now and I wish him the best."

[RomanSunburn]

I think that's a great answer. The only other thing I might say is that you don't want to talk about it, but I think what you've already been saying is perfect. That, or you could walk around with a sign on your head so you don't actually have to tell anyone

"Why do you ask?" "Have you been a secret admirer?" "He is free now. Go for it."

[LoveHopeStrength14]

Originally Posted by TheByzantine

"Why do you ask?" "Have you been a secret admirer?" "He is free now. Go for it."

Thats a great answer, what a funny way to put a smile on my face. I'll try that sometimes.

[Perna]

It sounds like you still might be a little too tuned in to your ex? I can't imagine that you meet that many people you haven't seen for six months, that often? If someone I am only acquainted with (haven't seen or talked to in six months; they don't know what I've been up to and I don't know what they have been up to) were to ask me about an ex, I would merely state that we were no longer together and change the subject to them and their affairs.

I'm sure it happened a lot in the first couple months, but now? The number of people who know you and don't know you've broken up has to be kind of small? If you have people who are asking "again", who know you are broken up and are curious about your personal business with no reason to be, then I'd be pretty rude with comments like TheByzantine suggests.

But I don't spend a lot of emotional effort on acquaintances I haven't communicated with in six months that ask random questions, probably the only thing they may remember about me? That's okay with me, for them to ask whatever they remember; if they don't ask about me, first, how I'm doing instead of how my relationship is doing, that is very telling as to why they're acquaintances and not friends

[ACanthony]

I think you have to understand why people are asking in the first place. It's just a conversation piece. They just want to know how everything is (although I'm sure some people are just nosy). Perhaps if they didn't ask about your ex, they might not have anything else to ask about.

If you don't want to talk about it, simply say with a smile, "No, I'm not with him anymore. But it was for the best and I'm doing great."

[LoveHopeStrength14]

Originally Posted by Perna

It sounds like you still might be a little too tuned in to your ex? I can't imagine that you meet that many people you haven't seen for six months, that often? If someone I am only acquainted with (haven't seen or talked to in six months; they don't know what I've been up to and I don't know what they have been up to) were to ask me about an ex, I would merely state that we were no longer together and change the subject to them and their affairs.

I'm sure it happened a lot in the first couple months, but now? The number of people who know you and don't know you've broken up has to be kind of small? If you have people who are asking "again", who know you are broken up and are curious about your personal business with no reason to be, then I'd be pretty rude with comments like TheByzantine suggests.

But I don't spend a lot of emotional effort on acquaintances I haven't communicated with in six months that ask random questions, probably the only thing they may remember about me? That's okay with me, for them to ask whatever they remember; if they don't ask about me, first, how I'm doing instead of how my relationship is doing, that is very telling as to why they're acquaintances and not friends

Yes I'm still working through the 2 year relationship I had, its a work in progress. Its the unexpected triggers that makes it hard for me at times. My ex is a bus driver and even though he no longer works there I still take the bus and most of the drivers knew about the relationship. Most of the time I know that these drivers are asking out of curiosity and yeah its for gossip. I smile and keep things on the surface and say no we're not together and move on from there.

[LoveHopeStrength14]

Originally Posted by ACanthony

I think you have to understand why people are asking in the first place. It's just a conversation piece. They just want to know how everything is (although I'm sure some people are just nosy). Perhaps if they didn't ask about your ex, they might not have anything else to ask about.

If you don't want to talk about it, simply say with a smile, "No, I'm not with him anymore. But it was for the best and I'm doing great."

You're right and its also why I don't take it personal when these people ask me about the relationship I use to have. I smile and just quickly tell them no we're no longer together and that I'm doing so much better now. It is a work in progress as I'm moving on. I'm doing better each day.