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Feb 10, 2011, 07:05 PM
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well this is the first time im writing in a forum and dont know how it work. but ill tell u whats wrong.
My girlfriend at the moment has been my bestfriend for 6yrs. she has 3 kids and lost her husband in june of 2010. we got sexually active and wanted to make it official so we have been a coulple since september and like all relationsihps we argue but get passed it. on feb. 7th she told me that she doesnt know anymore when i asked she says she is goin through alot and that she feels that she needs to be alone and it breaks my heart to hear that. when i have been a great boyfriend and a great friend to her family which doesnt know about us secretly being together. i asked why and she says she doesnt know why she feels this way but did say maybe because it would have been 11 years on valentines day for her husband that passed away. i dont know what to do. everytime i ask her she say she doesnt know when i ask her if she loves me she replies with a yes and i always tell her i love her and that im here for her. PLZ help me i am so heart broken everything doesnt mean anything anymore.... |
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Feb 10, 2011, 09:48 PM
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It sounds like she is still grieving the loss of her husband. I would give her some space but be supportive as much as she will allow. Only time will tell how this relationship will go.
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Feb 11, 2011, 01:05 AM
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It takes some people a long time to get over the loss of a loved one. I agree with Yoda - you need to give her some time to really get over her loss. I lost a friend of mine last year, and I think about her often. I couldn't imagine what it'd be like to lose a spouse.
Give her time. I know you're heartbroken and want to move forward, but I bet she's suppressed her grief, and she needs to face it. |
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Feb 11, 2011, 06:10 PM
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thanx for the feedback really means alot. i will try my best and hope for the best. will let you all know if anything changes
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Feb 12, 2011, 07:31 AM
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Maybe this is a phase she has hit in the process.I guess it is different for everyone.Could be guilt,emotional numbing.Do you treasure your friendship beyond the intimacy? If so try to be her friend for a while.Is she avoiding you as well?I would drop a short line...maybe a card once a week....thinking of you.Take good care of your self...something not sure.Just be a source of support,and try to busy yourself to give it some time.Even if you're climbing the walls.(Best attempt to help,but I feel lame)
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