[ieyat1989]

I had met the love of my life...we are so committed...at first we meet each other through both his family and my family both got along very well,...People started talking rumors and ******** about me and my mother which are not true. It was apparent because of jealousy.
however from there its been the longest 5 months of my life...both families fight ...his mother doesn't want me...my mother doesn't want him...he comes into my familes house one day and says that his mother tells him he needs to know me more for at least 3 months before we have our ceremony done...which is complete ******** to me. his mom tells him he still doesnt know me ..he says he is willing to leave his family and live at my families house until he can get a place of his own....

my parents- no we will give 3months and also give him 2years!!!
i dont want to wait that long but my family doesnt let me decide for my life...


so far now we are waiting for the 3months ...my family still fighting with me to leave him
i cant leave him,,.....everyday i cry in bed HELP!!!!

[Leed]

How old are you? If you are under 18, you're going to HAVE to do what your parents say. You have no choice because you're a minor. And it's the same with him.

If you both are over 18, they can't say much to either one of you. You can move out any time you want ~~ unless your parents are paying the bills ~ and then they DO have SOME say in the matter.

So alot depends on your age. I wouldn't burn any bridges if I were you. I would respect my parents and do what they ask. Three months isn't a lifetime ~ and they aren't asking very much. It IS important to get to know someone before you jump into a relationship or a BED. God bless. Hugs, Lee

[Perna]

It looks like he has made a choice and is working with it, has decided he can abide by his parents' 3 month idea; you probably should work with that too? It looks like a bit of a compromise; he is doing what his parents want but has come to live at your parents house.

I would focus on him and follow behind him (I do that in crowded restaurants; my husband is a big man so I get behind his back and follow him out the door :-) and stop crying and start smiling and planning, be "with" him in spirit and present a united front to both set of parents.

[racee]

agree with what lee said about the whole underage thing.

now, parents do not dictate your life, they have no rule even though they would like to think so, that being said it is real easy to follow what i say because i have left my family before and not spoken to them inawhile. if you have never done that, it is a very hard things to fo through.

wow, he truly loves you, to say "to hell with my family" the people who have known me my whole llife, who have been there for me through thick and thin, supported me, love me no matter what (from a mothers standpoint even if parents are mad at you and don't speak to you or say hateful things, they still love you) and go to you and make his life all about you! you should be so lucky for that!

entertain the waiting idea, if you are trying to make peace i have been with my partner for 4 years and waiting

your families in the end, will see how serious it is if you stick it out and go through with plans. they just don't see it as serious so they are acting as such.
so if you are over 18, it's your life, your rules, no compromises (save that for you and your spouse)
personally if i mary my partner i will be the only one amongst my siblings who "mother in law" loves me, (she already told me) all my other siblings theirs don't so you don't have to like them but eventually get along with them. everyone calms down over time