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#1
Oct 25, 2005, 03:32 AM
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When someone do something it's just natural for him/her to think how to please other people with his/her work. Sometimes, he/she compromises self-expression just to please others.
What are one's limits in pleasing others?
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Oct 25, 2005, 11:57 AM
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Hmmm. Hard question to answer. I really think I'm more internally motivated...I like doing good work because that's what satisfies me. (Now, if you threatened to take away my paycheck, you might see this high-falutin' attitude crumble in the dust.)
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Oct 25, 2005, 12:41 PM
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I'm a people pleaser and I know I take it too far. It has its roots in childhood, but I feel really uncomfortable if others are in need and I'm not at least trying to meet those needs. I'm working on it but not seeming to make much progress.
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Oct 25, 2005, 06:43 PM
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i believe you can still express yourself sufficiently when you are tryin to please others it ll jus be positive expression, which aint a bad thing
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Oct 25, 2005, 06:55 PM
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Excellent question, Piggysmile. What's YOUR opinion?
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Oct 25, 2005, 07:29 PM
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I just can't understand how you can please people despite the differences in likes and enjoyment.
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Oct 25, 2005, 08:04 PM
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Well, here's my take on it. I am not someone who compliments people if I don't mean it. I'm very straightforward, when I like something and also when I don't. Some people don't like it when I tell them I don't like something, and so sometimes I just don't say anything at all. It depends upon the situation -- if it hurts them if I don't tell them, then I tell them anyway. I try to pick my battles.
The up-side to being this way is that when I DO like something and tell the other person, then I think it means more to them. They are then pleased, and I haven't compromised anything about myself. I try to compensate for not pleasing all the people all the time by being kind when I feel kind, and keeping my mouth shut when I'm not. How's that?
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Oct 26, 2005, 07:45 PM
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thats politeness when you dont understand somebody
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Oct 26, 2005, 08:15 PM
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What do you mean?
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