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Mar 19, 2011, 09:02 AM
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I am falling for someone who already is in a relationship... and I don't know what to do. This is not unrequited love, because I know she feel very strongly for me, but not strongly enough to end her other relationship. But I'm her friend, and I'm crazy for her... what the heck should I do?
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Mar 19, 2011, 09:43 AM
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What would an honorable person do?
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Mar 19, 2011, 09:46 AM
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As I am, being a good friend, with a box of feelings he can't do anything with. I would never break them up... then anything I made would be stained with my manipulation, you know? Things have into happen on their own... if at all.
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Mar 19, 2011, 11:21 AM
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Stop hanging out with this person.
A) Either she will start to miss you terribly and end the relationship she's in to be with you B) You are torturing yourself by spending time with someone you feel so strongly about but cannot have - don't do that to yourself. If she cares for you at all she will understand why you need to separate yourself from her. C) It may be a case of wanting what you can't have - she may be less attractive to you once she's available. |
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#5
Mar 19, 2011, 12:08 PM
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(((((Larfu)))))I hope you feel better.
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Mar 19, 2011, 12:22 PM
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Thanks. I think I'm going to call her and tell her I can't see her for a while. I need to get over these feelings or something. If she wants to leave her boyfriend for me, she knows where to call. I do not think this will happen. Off on my own, I will continue my quest towards being truly awesome. With or without her.
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~Westin NAMI San Diego Peer Support Specialist My Blog, Neurochemically Challenged, a coping tool of mine. Eternally striving to thrive. |
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#7
Mar 19, 2011, 03:38 PM
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You are truly awesome
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| Larfu
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#8
Mar 20, 2011, 05:41 AM
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She called it off with the other guy... but I still want to try to be her friend even though she's available now. I've not had these emotions for many years, so, it was good to know they still work.
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~Westin NAMI San Diego Peer Support Specialist My Blog, Neurochemically Challenged, a coping tool of mine. Eternally striving to thrive. |
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#9
Mar 20, 2011, 01:19 PM
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Best wishes to you
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| Larfu
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#10
Mar 20, 2011, 01:34 PM
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Quote:
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| Larfu
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Mar 20, 2011, 11:05 PM
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I've been in this situation before, it only leads to bad consequences and devastation, I recommend backing off.. even though it sucks.
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