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Well, here's what happened. The evening started with my aspie gf finding that her companion bear had a peice missing from his ear. She had the bear since 2 months old and is now in her 20s. Wededucted it was done by her dad who is going through a divorce with my gf mother. He hates my gf- don't kmow why. One thing led to another and i'm in the kitchen telling him 'if i had a daughter who was raped i would support her instead of telling the police she was a liar.' he came at me with his fist raised and gf and mother tried to stop him. He then turned on them and tried to hit them. I got in between them and raised my hands so that he couldn't hit them. I said 'calm down!' he said 'no, get out my house'
He then punched, pushed and kicked me(not in that order) and i decided that attention had now been turned away from the women so i left with him following me. My gf called police from inside and i called from outside. He was cuffed and put in a cell overnight. He has been violent to gf b4 but police were never called. Long story short, he said he acted in self defense as i hit him first. I didn't. An independant lawyer looked at my statement, gf mum statement and gf dad statement. He favours mine and gf mums statements. He is due to appear in court next month. I am worried about the case. Thoughts please? Last edited by FooZe; Mar 27, 2011 at 10:21 PM.. Reason: added trigger icon |
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Wow! That is a lot, but you did the right thing in getting the police involved. Judges can usually see right through the whole self-defense crap, especially when you have statements supporting your side. Court will probably be very short, a lot of times first time offenders (depending on where you live) are given diversion or probation. Have you and your GF taken out an order of protection against him? I would strongly recommend that! Stay safe, you did the right thing!
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after reading your post i'd recommend you get a protection order against him. different states have different names for it. your lawyer can submit it to the judge. you prob want to obtain a police report about what happened to you by him attached to your request. it's not as complicated as some may think. the prot. order would require him to stay away from you. wherever you are he has to leave. he will be served so he will know the courts mean business. the order will be specific regarding no contact with you.
this man is capable of more physical violence. beware of him. __________________ Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle. The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours..~Ayn Rand |
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Thanks for the advice, people! Firstly, I live in England so laws differ. I also cannot get a protection order because the mother still lives there and I still go back there regularly in case confrontation arises and I need to step in again. The mother sleeps in our flat bur goes to the 'family house' everyday to feed her dogs and cook for her son.
I don't have proper Internet at the moment as I'm in between addresses. Can someone please find me a accurate and concise symptom/behaviour list of a sociopath? Also, in a list form would be ideal. I think that is what the father is. I looked up the word evil last night in various sources and sites. He fits the bill. |
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Profile of a sociopath taken from the internet
Features Glibness and Superficial charm Manipulative and Conning Grandiose Sense of self Pathological lying Lack of remorse, shame, or guilt shallow emotions Incapacity for love Need for Stimulation Callousness/Lack of empathy Poor behavioral controls/Impulsive Nature Irresponsibility/Unreliability Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity Lack of realistic life plan/Parasitic lifestyle Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility This list is not all inclusive or diagnostic, just a list of common features associated with sociopaths. __________________ Children's talent to endure stems from their ignorance of alternatives. ~ Maya Angelou Thank you SadNEmpty for my avatar and signature.
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That is EXCELLENT! Thank you! Just what I asked for.
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I don't know very much about the laws in England, please make sure you, your girlfriend, and her mother stay safe!
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The girlfriend and mother might consider asking the court to order the violent dude removed from the premises.
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Yes. I would like them to have him removed. I think if it happens again, they will.
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Well, it turns out the father is into incest. My gf is no longer my gf and, now that we're married, she confided in me that he hates her because she 'left' him. Clearly a very sick man.... But not as sick as the mother who is, to this day, jealous of her own daughter for getting more 'sex' than her from her husband.
And in case anyone is interested, he got off without any charges and I suspect my mother in law of helping him out with that despite being in the middle of a divorce at the time. It wouldn't be the first time that she helped keep him out of prison for assaulting their own daughter. What a disgusting family. I'm glad we moved away. |
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Im glad things worked out for you in the end.
Its terrible that nothing happened to the father though. |
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