[R_Summers]

So I've been thinking about grief and how people deal with it.
I can't say I go through a big period of grief when something bad happens or when someone dies... Sometimes I think I'm kinda weird when it comes to grieving something or someone.

Usually I don't cry about it or if I do, I cry just a little or a lot but for a short period of time (like a day or two) and then it's done. I sorta forget about what happened and go on with my life. I get sad and sometimes angry about it but I don't dwell on it for long. I move on quite fast... I put every bad thing on the back of my mind and lock it there.
I don't know if it's healthy, maybe not.
The truth is I've been reading about grief and how ending a relationship is similar to losing someone to death. In both cases we lose someone...so yes, it can be similar...

I lost my grandfather two years ago. I remember I did cry but only when my brother came home that day and hugged me. I think I only cried then. I didn't go through anyother stage of grieve... I think I just jump right into acceptance.
I didn't miss him for long. I guess I do miss him but I don't get that overwhelming feeling of need to see him again. I don't know how to explain it...

Am I too weird to "forget" and lock my feelings about losing people inside?

With the end of my relationship I'm doing the same thing.
It ended only a week ago. I went through the "oh no what did I do, why did this happen" phase, for like a day or two, did the "I miss him, I want him back" phase for 12 hours or so, then I cried and talked to my mom about it and went straight to the "That a**hole, I hate him so much" phase...and now I'm accepting it ended for good and that I need some one better to make me happy and fullfilled.
I guess in this case I did go through all the phases... but very fast...

My attitude is freaking out my friends I think... I started dressing up and cut my hair, put some bangs in (look ridiculous, lol) and started to lose weight... My mom says I'm becoming the girl I was before I dated M and lost myself in the relationship. She says I lost my personality, my bossy and confident attitude people like so much and started to be a dummy and dressing like a old married woman =S
I guess I want to move on fast and all but I don't want to bury my feelings and have them bite me in the ***** one day when I fall in love again...

Am I overreacting? Should I be concerned about how fast my "moving on" device works?
the only death I know I went through all the phases and for almost a year or more was that of my godfather when I was 12. Since then death seems not to affect me for long and losing people I love hurts me very deep but I just move on after two or three months. I think of those friends and family I lost frequently and I miss them but I don't get sad about it. I accept fate.

Am I a weird person? Should I be worried? or is there anyone like me out there ?=P

[Perna]

No two people are the same when it comes to mourning or grief. No one but you knows how much you have "invested" in a person, how deep the relationship goes (and length of time together has a lot to do with it too; if you were with someone 1 year that can be very different than if you were with them 5 years). There is no "should" about response. Just because someone is a relative doesn't mean they impacted our life that much or that their death is going to impact our life.

Just because you "appear" to be over someone does not mean you are, even you may have trouble with thinking you are and get blindsided by a trigger that reminds you of that person and what you miss later, after you thought you were over them.

"Missing", to me, is a form of sadness. Just because you do not cry or carry on, just like there is no right length of time, there is no right way to "get over" someone.

If you are not worried, you are not worried! No, there is no one else like you out here; we're all individuals with our own histories and responses. If you are not bothered by your response, it doesn't not matter what others think, yours is not their life.

[Leed]

No you are not "weird." You are maturing and accepting that death is a fact of life, just as the end of some relationships is a fact of life. You're realizing that we need to accept some things, even tho they are painful. The sooner we can get thru them, the better it is for us.

Just because you can recover quickly doesn't make you weird. You're fortunate! Don't listen to what others say or think ~ it's different for everyone. God bless and take care of YOU. Hugs, Lee

[R_Summers]

Thank you both for your feedback.
I'm not over M, I might not be for a while but I'm not reacting as I saw other friends and people react to the end of a relationship. Guess that's whats bugging me a bit... I feel free and with this need to feel good and carefree... well, and hot
I was wondering about this stuff 'cause I've been advice to write all my feeling down and I'm very rational and like to have all the "normal" emotional response are so I can compare with my "rational" responses and I found an article about grief in break ups..
But I guess it doesn't worry me...
I just wanted to know what everyone thought about this topic.
On the other hand, it bothers me to bottle everything and not feeling the pain and the sadness when I should but latter on when I've breakdowns or crisis as my therapist says, (when I have them I cry and rant and have panic attacks caused usually by nothing in particular...bottled emotions -.- )

Thank you both, Perna and Lee, I found your replies very insightful and interesting =)

[R_Summers]

Oh, I'm sorry if sometimes my english is not perfect. It's been a long time since I had to use it daily (english institute) and I'm not as fluent as I was. Sometimes I can't get my message through as I thought it.
For instant, when I said "moving on" I meant that I'm not dwelling on what went on and still thinking about any possibility of being back with M nor did I meant to say I forget about people after they leave, but that I don't think of them constantly and dwell on the situation.***