[hoping4best]

i have posted about this in depression forum aswell but havnt got any response as yet.

well, i announced myself engaged,among friends, when in reality im not engaged. the reason i did this is complicated. i was experiencing depressive symptoms for past few days...and then i got upset due to spme friends....there was work pressure also.....the result was i took overdose of sedatives for 3 consecutive days.... and when i woke up i was so depressed. and then i went to meet my family on psychiatrist's advice. im currently on medication for depression since then.

i dont know whether i took sedatives due to depression OR im depressed due to the overdose. i announced my fake engagement and there is no going back from it because then it will be very humiliating may be that is the 'attention seeking behaviour'.

i have pushed away some really nice people during this episode.

another thing. if i have done the mistake of declaring myself engaged...why dont i stop worrying about it now!!!! i mean i do have to have something to worry about all the time!

[Yoda]

I think your little fib is a small problem. The bigger problem is your emotional state.

You can always say you want a long engagement and let it dwindle. You need not feel embarrassed by your friends.

But ODing on sedatives and feelings of depression are more serious. Who is in your support network besides psychcentral? Are you in therapy? Have you changed meds recently?

[Leed]

I see from the other post that you announced this when you were "overdosed" ~ so you really can't take any "blame" for this because you didn't know what you were doing. Obviously you were confused. But it's not that big of a problem anyway ~ you can always say that it didn't work out, and let it go at that.

And I would hope that the people you pushed away would realize that something was amiss when you did the "pushing." I'm sure you could mend the fences there ~ just give them a call and let them know you were ill at the time. You don't have to explain any more than that.

I hope your medication for depression has taken effect ~ it does take up to 6 weeks for most of them to start working.

Please don't worry about these issues ~ none of them are earth shaking. And try to relax sweetie. Life is too short to waste time on the little stuff. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee

[Perna]

Who were all the people who heard your engagement announcement? Is there actually someone who you have been seeing that they know? What did they say? Did they believe you?

Being depressed and overdosing is the bigger problem and it may be that no one even paid attention to your "announcement" if it was not formal or there is no other person they know. It might just have been seen as something odd you said when you were drugged.

I would ignore what you said until someone asks about it and then shrug and explain you don't know why you said that, it isn't true. But I would work on the depression and immediate problem with overdosing more.

[hoping4best]

Originally Posted by Perna

Who were all the people who heard your engagement announcement? Is there actually someone who you have been seeing that they know? What did they say? Did they believe you?

Being depressed and overdosing is the bigger problem and it may be that no one even paid attention to your "announcement" if it was not formal or there is no other person they know. It might just have been seen as something odd you said when you were drugged.

I would ignore what you said until someone asks about it and then shrug and explain you don't know why you said that, it isn't true. But I would work on the depression and immediate problem with overdosing more.

yes,they believe me. they are my friends and people at work. all of them. im not seeing anyone. there is just this friend of mine about whom my girl friends are thinking that i have engaged to. im not sure whether people noticed that i was drugged or not. i remained indoors most of the time.. besides, a friend told me later on that people didnt notice (that was one of the reasons for my frustation when i woke up..that im in the dump and nobody cares at all!!!!!!!! )

the engagement issue is not a minor one. many people would be wondering that how come i got engaged to this good looking and prosperous guy (i have pretended this).

[hoping4best]

Originally Posted by Leed

I see from the other post that you announced this when you were "overdosed" ~ so you really can't take any "blame" for this because you didn't know what you were doing. Obviously you were confused. But it's not that big of a problem anyway ~ you can always say that it didn't work out, and let it go at that.

And I would hope that the people you pushed away would realize that something was amiss when you did the "pushing." I'm sure you could mend the fences there ~ just give them a call and let them know you were ill at the time. You don't have to explain any more than that.

I hope your medication for depression has taken effect ~ it does take up to 6 weeks for most of them to start working.

Please don't worry about these issues ~ none of them are earth shaking. And try to relax sweetie. Life is too short to waste time on the little stuff. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee

yes Leed, i tried to think like this too that since i wasnt able to think clearly its alrite what i did. but as a matter of fact, my mind devised the whole plan before doing this. only later on when i came back to senses i realized that i have been such a fool!!

[lynn P.]

If your friends and coworkers know the person you're supposed to be engaged to - it will be more awkward/embarrassing if one of them talks to this guy. Better to say you were confused before this lie gets a life of its own and you'll lose more friends in the end.

[hoping4best]

Originally Posted by lynn P.

If your friends and coworkers know the person you're supposed to be engaged to - it will be more awkward/embarrassing if one of them talks to this guy. Better to say you were confused before this lie gets a life of its own and you'll lose more friends in the end.

no,they dont know him. and there isnt much chance that it will be blown up. it will still be embarrasing to say that im not enagaged. i think i'll have to carry on it a bit longer...or perhaps as long as possible...

[hoping4best]

im taking medication for depression and i hope that i'll start feeling better soon. lets see what happens. by the way, im not very comfortable with this psychiatrist but i dont have any other option.

[madisgram]

just so you know sedatives can be a depressant. so when you "awoke" you were even more depressed than you already were. i'm glad to hear you're in an anti-depressant now. takes time to kick in, so be patient. my anti-dep. helps me function so much better.
attention seeking behavior-that could be cause you were reaching out for help and didn't feel heard.
pdoc. try to work with him if this is your only option. what do you not like about him?
if you can see a therapist as well it could help you better understand the triggers for your depression. it can help you a lot by giving you coping skills.
as for announcing you were engaged-that is a tricky one.
one option-wait til someone asks about it, then say it wasn't for you and it's no longer planned.
second option-just fess up about it as u see ppl you told. say you were having a difficult time healthwise and mislead them. that you apologize. no need to say more. if asked just say you'd rather not discuss it further.
pusing friends away-i'd go to them and tell them you're sorry about how you were acting. that you were having some life problems and took it out on them. if they are true friends they will accept your apology.
hope this helps you not to worry. you made some bad judgements but it's not the end of the world. good news-you're getting help.

[hoping4best]

But i was told later on by a doc that this particular sedative doesnt cause depression and that the reason i took them was probably depression. Ok, does any one know that do they make u feel 'horny'? I think i did feel like this a bit. Or may be im just confused about what really happened.