[Trindal]

What do you do when you relationship is drifting apart?

[Brometheus]

I would like to know the answer to this as well.. a sad feeling knowing its drifting/eventually will end but you stay together. .. why?

[JeanneDoe]

Originally Posted by Trindal

What do you do when you relationship is drifting apart?

Well..
I knew my relationship was drifting.
Rather it had a hole and was slowly sinking.. I worried about the sinking, but tried to ignore it. I had some luggage on the my relationship boat, i think I got most of it off in time because it sank last night.

I spent the time before trying to establish a support system, and do some inquiry on my thoughts. it was like I was blowing up a life raft to save me before it went under.

Communication is key, talk it out with your partner. Use "I" statements.
I wish you all the best.

[Leed]

i have to agree ~ obviously there is a communication problem. If you aren't talking, you're going to drift apart. In order to stay close and intimate, you have to KNOW each other intimately -- and the only way to do that is to talk!

Sit down together and discuss what each one of you wants from this relationship. Where is it going? Will it be permanent? Is it just a temporary, fun thing? What are your goals in life? Once you figure things out, you should feel a little closer -- but KEEP talking. Just one "sit-down" conversation isn't going to do it.

Best of luck! Hugs, Lee

[Izraehl]

I'm nearly certain it's one of a couple things.

1) Maybe you've just left the 'honeymoon phase' of the relationship where things aren't as exciting as they used to be and maybe the communication has gone done a little bit. It's completely normal in a maturing relationship and there might not be any reason for concern. Sit down with your SO and be completely honest, let them know that you think the relationship is kind of falling apart. See what they say, say what you're thinking, talk it over.

2) There is a book called 'five love languages', it teaches that people show that they love each other through different ways. Maybe you show love by doing things for your SO and you feel loved when you receive verbal compliments and affirmations. However, your SO might show love by physical touch (hugs, sex, etc.) and might feel loved when things are done for them. In that scenario, your SO feels loved but you don't because they are not speaking your love language. You're expecting verbal messages of love( i love you, you look great today!, etc.) and when all you're getting is hugs and cuddles and maybe those just don't make you feel loved as much. Once again, sit down and talk about this, explore what may be causing these feelings. Your relationship doesn't need to drift apart, a simple conversation could solve everything and become a gateway to happiness.

Good luck to you, also that book is a pretty good read and a bit eye opening (even though the information seems obvious, it's still nice to have it displayed because often we take obvious stuff for granted and forget about it.)