No comparison

I was married for almost 11 years, and even after three years now of being divorced I still find my family and some friends still talking to or communicating with my ex-husband. I have no communication with him myself but he does text me sometimes, even though he's remarried and has a kid of his own on the way.

I've been seeing this guy that I really think I have a future with now for a little over four months, but I am afraid for him to meet my family because I'm worried they won't like him because he's not my ex.

My ex was a charmer, and was loved by my family. They didn't understand why I left, all BS that was really going on, and what a control freak he was. He wasn't good to me, but no one saw that. That's how good he was at appearances.

We never had kids, so I don't really understand why he feels he needs to have some hook in my life. He knew when my nephew was born and sent me a congratulatory text two weeks ago! My brother texted him!

With him still reaching into my life in one way or another, I'm finding it hard to really move on with this guy now that I really care about. My father seemingly understands what went on with me and my ex, but I think more than likely he's really trying to be supportive of me.

I want my new guy to meet my family without feeling like he's being compared to my ex.

There are ways to KEEP him from texting you. Why don't you get a different phone and don't give out the numbers to your family or to HIM??? if you family is going to give him the numbers, then they don't deserve to have your numbers either.

Talk to your family about giving this guy a chance!! Tell them that you're DONE with your ex, and you don't want to hear any more about him. Tell them you are seeing this new guy and they OWE it to you to give him a chance,. Otherwise, you just won't come around with him. They're playing games, and it's not fair to you. if they don't know what your ex did to you, tell them! That's what I had to do with my own parents who at FIRST didn't BELIEVE me. But I finally convinced them that my ex wasn't the cool dude they thought he was -- he was controlling, abusive creep that i TOLD them he was!!! Sometimes you have to draw them a picture. LOL

Make a stand - there are things you can do to stop this. Good luck. Hugs, Lee