[ToastwithButter]

So this girl I really care for and I broke up and went NC for about 6 days. I texted her and apologized and she says she has been enjoying her space and would like to remain friends. She also stated that she did miss my company. She would like to hang out on occasion.

This morning she texts me out the blue for small chit chat. She then asks if I could help her find stuff at the library tomorrow afternoon. I text her tonight to ask how her day went and she replies with 'was ok. u?' I reply that my day was great and asked for a movie suggestion. No reply. An hour later I texted that she must be busy and to have a good night then. No response.

What does this mean? Is she just feeling guilty about the breakup and wanting to keep me apart of her life? Or is she hoping for reconciliation down the road and getting back together? Has anyone went from being in a relationship to just being friends and could help me decode what she is meaning?

Tomorrow I was thinking about having lunch with her to talk about our friendship and where we should stand. I really think we should get the issue as to whether we are ever going to be in a relationship out the way early on so that I can squash remaining feelings and so that it does not ruin a potentially good friendship later.

Any help is appreciated.

[salukigirl]

I would hold off before asking her what she wants unless it is torturing you. The last guy I broke up with texted me all the time after we broke up and I tried to be friends but then I realized that he was just trying to get back with me so I stopped talking to him all together. So my thinking is, if she doesn't cut you out all together then maybe she just really does want her space? Sounds like she is being honest with you. She enjoys your company but is having a good time being single and there's nothing wrong with that.

Has this only been going on for a couple weeks? I would def wait it out and just let her do what she needs to. If it gets to where you absolutely need more and can't do the friends thing anymore and she hasn't already come to you, then talk about it. But if you two are genuinely enjoying each other's company and there isn't anything else going on then I would just let it go for the time being.

[Confusedinomicon]

Generally you have the week rule until you make contact with them again. That way you can have space and neither person feels overwhelmed. After that I guess you can try contacting her to see if she wants to talk again, and if she doesn't respect it and you move on too.

If she doesn't want to talk to you after the space of time it usually means she isn't ready or doesn't want to have a friendship with you.

Toastwithbutter, is this the girl you wrote about in another post?
If it is the same girl, be very careful with over texting or coming on too strong if you're going to continue any kind of relationship.

My experience is that it's extremely difficult to be friends with any ex's after a break-up. Usually one of you wants to get back into a relationship so it is very uncomfortable. I generally cut people off completely. it's just easier in the end.

[hoping4best]

I have never found comfort in being friends wid the ppl from whom i was hoping more than friendship. It just brings pain later. So if u can do fine widout staying in touch with her i think that will be best for you to cut off completely. I dont think she wants to get back with you, or so it seems to me. I think she is texting u just to be polite may be . Leave her if u can do so.