I JUST DON"T GET IT.. is there something wrong with me?

I feel like i suck at personal relationships..

I had this issue going on where i liked someone and i was being played around by the whole group.

Well, I'm friends with my ex, who lives in another country now since I moved away. and i was chatting with him.. when he said he has a lot of stuff on his plate.. so i asked him do you want to tlak about it?

he said no.

then i said yeah i just went through lots of stuff as well the other day.. and he's like "like what?"

so i asked should i talk about it?
he's like go ahead.

So i did. and at the end of the conversation he seemed to be getting irked. and he told me "theres more important problems i have to deal with than your drama."

and I said what the hell, why're you pouncing on me?

and he logged off so i wrote him an email saying i'm sorry your'e going through stuff but i don't know what it is. but i also didn't appreciate how you reacted at the end of the conversation if you're going through something you could have told me that you didnt' want to discuss myproblems righ tnow..

and he DELETED ME!

Did i do anything wrong?

I'm so confused.

Nothing wrong with you, dear. Sometimes peoples' own problems blind them. I know several people who won't give anyone else's problems any kind of validation just because they have their own. If he was a true friend then he'll come around.

but he didn't have to delete me. wasn't that a bit extreme?

I just said pretty much the same thing in another thread. I suck at relationships too. 46 years old and can't say I have an actual friend in the world other than my husband. And he's my third (and final) husband.
His action does seem a bit extreme. Unless you're blocked you might be able to send him a message, with your questions.

Thanks.

I did send him a message saying why he did that but at the end i also told him to get lost.

Just coz five minutes before he deleted me, he knew i was hurting because i felt rejected by some other people. and he did the same exact thing to me. which showed he didn't care.

Why other people do what they do isn't our problem; yes it was extreme but it has nothing really to do with you. He may have taken your message wrong, it may have been the straw that broke his camel's back, etc., no way of knowing. It doesn't sound like he was/can be very useful to you as a friend so I would shrug and find friends that are?

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It does seem a little extreme, but he might've just been frustrated or feeling irrational. It probably wasn't you. But maybe you could give it a couple days to cool and then send him another message asking if he's okay and maybe see if he's willing to talk about why he went to such an extreme?

okay now i'm a bit annoyed. He did block me. ITs not like i was messaging him. I left him alone ...

and i know that its his issue, not mine. but it still makes me angry because id din't do anything to deserve such grand of a treatment... would anyone else feel the same way?

how can i move on from this?

I, for one, would become neurotically obsessed with finding out what was going on...but uhh, thats not good advice. I'm not sure how to help you since I often find myself in similar situations.
I'm sorry.

He doesn't respect you. Period.

Had a person who did the same thing to me. I had wondered about it too. All the time I had wasted thinking about it...really....he wasn't worth a thought!
Move on. Forget this person, seriously.