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May 06, 2011, 02:54 PM
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Hi.
I'm posting here because I need to just say everything and I have already driven my friends crazy with my incessant need to talk about this to someone supportive. I have a very very dear friend, a wonderful woman who I've known for about a year. She is a little older than me, married, and something of a spiritual example to me in her writings and her lifestyle. She is perhaps one of the most genuine and loving people I know. She lives quite a ways from me so we do not get to see each other often, but we were able to hang out together and with mutual friends for a few days last week and had a great time. At the end though it was very hard to say goodbye to her, because I've apparently fallen really hard for her. I love her as a friend and as a source of spiritual inspiration and comfort, but also I am in love with her now. I have never been infatuated with anyone like this - it is almost ridiculous how cliched the whole thing feels, but it is driving me around the bend still. But she is completely, 100% unavailable. She is committed to her marriage and to loving all of her friends equally, and I know from her reactions to similar things happening with others that it would likely freak her out a great deal if I said anything. People fall for her constantly, it's like gravity. My friends and I call it "the N Effect" because it just happens to people around her. My friends tell me that generally after a year or so people get over it and can just be friends with her. But I don't have a year, right now it is interfering with my work, and I can't stop talking about her to everyone which just makes it worse. I need to know what to do to keep myself sane! Please, anyone, if you have any advice, I'd be very grateful. Thanks. |
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May 07, 2011, 06:41 AM
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That sounds like a hard,painful place to fall.Try to make it through one day at a time.Wish I knew magic helps to offer.
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May 07, 2011, 11:09 AM
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May 08, 2011, 03:09 PM
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I so wish I could be like her. Having so many people fall for you!!! Oh....it must be wonderful. I'm the exact opposite. Can't even get a cat to love me
I wish I was like her.... 
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May 10, 2011, 05:21 AM
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May 12, 2011, 04:09 PM
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True, those cats. It can be really tough sometimes, valexand; it feels like nobody cares. I know. But sometimes we can be surprised too and find someone does. *hugs* I may not know you as an individual, but I care about you as a person. Thanks for posting, both of you, and best wishes. |
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May 15, 2011, 07:01 PM
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I can kind of relate here. There's this guy that I really like, we have known each other for about 3 years. He's kind, sexy, funny, smart, down to earth, very easy to talk to, just an awesome person to be around. A friend for life. Just one problem, he's unavailable. I really wish we could be together, I'd be so happy. I wish I could find someone exactly like him. I feel like I deserve happiness for once in my life, and now i've been single for 4 and a 1/2 years since my divorce.
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