Young People's issues....

Hey guys,
I am new and everything but i juss need advice...on relationships on how people act i am going to give you something old and something new after you guys reply..... I have told other people this but i just want to know eVERyones opinions.....

I write a journal because my very wise friend who is a year younger than me....knows alot....she is quiet and quiet people observe....I already ask her lots of questions but i don't wanna be bothering her with it.
This boy Amiko is so into my mind. I don't feel any way the same as the boys i used to like. This is why I am so happy that he is someone I like.

First of all his dad is from Rivers State and his mom is from Yoraba! And all this time my mom and dad wants me to try to find a man in Nigeria. He's a junior, and is known where to the point people know him. It's koo that he's reserved and a BIG PLUS, guess what? the boy can dress! Dude is so fresh from his jerseys to his tees. I thought he was straight up black( african american) the way he acts, he's real quiet. He's nigerian i could get married to him... he's finally someone who is taller than me. He goes out with someone right now.

But right now we are koo with each other. I mean we say hey, we talk a little bit. But he plays varsity basketball, so me and him playing basketball, we could get closer there. I juss wanna have his phone number, but i am not to the point of confidence to tell him that. But i don't think that he would like me anyway. Because everyone is like he is really nice, but i don't think he would think i am pretty of ugly..i wanna be friends wit me, so that he can like me because of my personality...

but get this....what does it mean if i was coming through a hallway, and Amiko had his arm around his girlfriend talking to her. Then he takes his arm when he sees me and feels uncomfortable. He knows I know he gotta gurlfriend. Plus i don't think he would take his arms out if it was a teacher......so i don't know....

He is nice, and confident, and so fine, he is popular, KOOL WITH EVERYONE, and i am so nieve thinking we are ment to be together because we are both Nigerian...... what do you think? I REALLY WANT TO KNOW EVERYTHING YOU THINK.......

Welcome to psychcentral, and hope you put us in your bookmark so you can return often! How kool is that, that you found someone your parents would approve of! I don't know your customs, nor how "urgent" it is to get married, with reference to age and again, your customs... but if you have time view the whole field... wait... allow this guy time to date others,,, with you around... make sure he knows you like him. If he is from Nigeria, does his parents also wish him to marry likewise? That could be something you could find out... do you have any real conversations with him, yet? Sometimes playing "hard to get" makes a guy want to get to know you.... sometimes when we are pursuing another ...well that is the time we find who we really are supposed to be with (another!) Good wishes in this!

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Hey - welcome

I agree that if he took his arm away from her when he saw you that it might mean that he likes you. Hard to say. I'd make sure he does it 2 or 3 more times before I would get excited about that.

Are you meant to be together b/c you're both Nigerian? Eh... no, I wouldn't put too much faith in that part. It makes it easier, but it's you're really set on a Nigerian future husband, I'd date more than one of them before you decide exactly what type of man you're looking for. Don't get too hooked on the first one you date... that's not a good idea no matter what. You definitely need to have a couple of boyfriends before you get married, just for the ability to filter out what you want and don't want in a relationship. Every person brings something different into a relationship that it's worth the exploration to find out what's available. Lots of times you'll find out that what you used to think was important all of a sudden isn't, and that new things matter more. But you won't know that unless you've had several relationships.

That's my vote... see what happens if you can date him (after he's broken up with his girlfriend, that is), but don't get too excited about marrying him just yet. It's way too early for that.

Good luck,
LMo

NO lol.......naw it's not about that it's juss that my parents want to do that and all......but i just want to see what he thinks...

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It could mean a lot of things. It might mean that he's really into you and doesn't want you to know he's seeing someone else. Of course, it could also mean that his arm was getting itchy and uncomfortable so he needed to unlock it from his girfriends' I think you need to gather some more evidence to know for sure. Good luck.

-Ben

I'm really not trying to rain on your parade or anything, but you said he's already got a g/f? I'd just be friends and hold off on the flirting until that relationship had run its course. I mean, new crushes are always exciting and it can be hard not to flirt, but I've been the "other girl" and it sucks. And anyway, if he dumps her for you, doesn't that mean he might just dump you for someone else? I might be full of bad advice because I'm still a little bitter about what happened. And just to conclude things, I know it prolly seems like u are meant to be or something like that, but I think just about everyone feels that way about the person they are crushing on. Not to say that it's not the case with you and your maybe future man, just that it's too soon to know good luck with everything!

Hi Kay...that was a good reply. I agree 100%

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