Finding Peace with those who May Dislike Me

Lately I find my mind constantly thinking about this person who seems to see me as someone unlikeable because I did not give to her for her benefit, while I come second place compared to her. I tried to be helpful, but she seemed to always want from me without considering my needs. I gave to her to help her in the time she needed it, but she constantly came back for more when she could have taken care of matters herself. It seems this person dislikes me for the reason of not continuously giving to her, and favoring her above myself. I can't say this person is selfish, but I want to neutralize my resentment toward this person and treat this person kindly. I just don't like to judge anyone because I don't like to be judged myself. I know everyone in life tries and people have their setbacks, or maybe I am making up excuses, but I don't want to dislike. I want to have peace to continue on with life pleasantly, but I find I hold some resentment toward others for treating me unfairly. I just don't like the tone of this person and her constant gossip and words of expressive contempt toward me. I tried to help out, but instead, I feel exploited and hurt. This person dislikes me when my heart reached out to this person to help out. I didn't know I would face so much opposition from this person who I tried to help out. I would like to have peace again, and not have to see others in such a negative way. Mainly, I don't want to hate.

Well, this person is NOT acting in your best interests, but I understand how you do not want to be filled with resentment.

Resentment is anger turned inward. Also, think of it this way. The people we are resenting don't KNOW we are resenting them, so they are living rent free in our heads!! All we are doing is hurting ourselves. Resentment is like a cancer -- it eats us up. It's best to just forgive the person because they just don't know any better. Their upbringing was such that they don't have the tools that you do to deal with REAL friendships. So see if you can forgive them -- it's for you as much as it is for them. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee