[Catlovers141]

Thanks for responding. I think I've resolved it!

[salukigirl]

As of now, he hasn't done anything that would require any kind of action. If you do not take him up on it then you just have to see what happens from there. If you are concerned, talk to your department head. Have you spoken to the guy directly? Is he in a position of power (i.e. prof, chair etc...)? You shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable at work. Your first step is flat out saying that he has been making you uncomfortable. I know it will feel awkward but you have to do it.

I actually just went thru this with another student in my dept. He is almost twice my age (non-traditional student) and was making disgusting comments to me and another girl. A guy in my dept actually went and told him that he was being inappropriate and he came up and apologized to me and I told him that he was way over the line. Since then, he hasn't said a word to me or her.

If you definitely do not want to say it to him directly, is there another student or a prof you could ask to be the "middle man"? And they don't have to say "she told me you were being too friendly" but have them bring it up as something THEY have noticed. You said others have commented on his friendliness towards you? So ask that person if they would talk to him for you?

I have a feeling that he is just being nice but better to be safe than sorry. His reaction to you (or someone else) about the situation should tell you a lot about his intentions. If he becomes very defensive or angry - he may just be a creep. But if he seems genuinely sorry and apologizes to you and then cuts it out - it was prob just a misunderstanding.

Hope everything works out and PM me if you need anything!