[helloforum]

Hi, I think this is where I should post this :S

Recently I am no longer attracted to my boyfriend of two and a half years. BUT I'm not really attracted to other people either.
We have had a great relationship and he is very considerate and smitten with me, he has lots of issues expressing verbally "i love yous" (unless drunk!) which sometimes has bothered me but all in all we are a very happy couple, best friends.
I've started finding myself getting angry at him for no reason and picking fights all the time (we never really fought). I find little habbits ridiculously annoying. I'm aware the cant keep your hands off each other loved up phase does end after about 18 months but this doesn't feel right....
The thing is, I've had important stuff at work for three months now which has had me so stressed that I'm crying every day (and I'm not a huge crier). I also am considering that I have relapsed into depression (I was in a unit for 3 months two years but am off all meds and have been for a year). I've had huge mood swings and deep down moments where I panic and avoid in my room. I cant tell if these stresses (and perhaps being down) is what is making me so angry at him? I think i'm taking out my frustration on him. BUT also... i feel like this is the beginning of the end for us.. or the middle of the end.

I don't really know what I'm asking, but has anyone here with depression gone "off" or "fallen out of love" with their partner due to a bout of depression but then fallen back IN love?

i think your depression and work stress is having a huge impact on your relationship.
Is there someone you can talk to, like a therapist about the depression and stress?
When I've gotten like that i am miserable to be around and it affects my marriage in a huge way. i go through feeling exactly like you that the relationship is ending.
it's a horrible situation to be in.

I would strongly suggest taking action if you are at all interested (which it sounds like you are) in saving your relationship.

[RomanSunburn]

Thank you so much for this thread and the response. I go through the same thing. I generally try to just ride it out, but sometimes it can be so difficult. I love my fiance more than anything, and I know those feelings of love always come back, but it's truly horrible until they do. I feel like a horrible person. Usually, when I'm not feeling love, I'm not feeling much of anything and I'm super irritable. Luckily, the periods of love always last longer than the few days of limbo.

Again, thanks for posting this. It makes me feel less alone.