[littlebitlost]

I know I have a hot hubby...... I don't mind sharing his sweet lovin.......... I do mind though when someone just randomly KISSES HIM though......

Summary. My auntie was doing a party for her friend. The one who kissed my husband. He was helpful to her all day, as I was mostly in bed/couch with a yukky flu.

Story is that Auntie, Uncle, She and her GayBestMate got all drunk after the party. My hubby doesn't drink, so was the designated dumbarse who got to drive her and her EvilChild home.

He returns, to tell me that she kissed him. He's sweet and loyal and would never initiate something like that so I know it was her. I have no problem with him and other women, if HE initiates it. But when Auntie's FRIEND, who I have to see at future parties/gatherings, this I see as a problem. We keep everything like that on the low down......

He feels dreadful because he kissed her back and got turned on. (It's red week for me and I have the flu)

I need to go reassure him now, but what should I do. Technically I think I'm meant to ***** slap her tomorrow when she collects her car. I kind of feel like it, because she doesn't know we share...... But on the other hand, we are AT Auntie's to arrange rehab for me, and on another hand that I am now inventing, we also came down here to work on our relationship problems.

LOL, mixed bag hey?

What should I do? Got about 12 hours to decide lol.

In my opinion, it's totally inappropriate for your Auntie to kiss your husband.
Him kissing her back, not the most appropriate thing to do, and he probably didn't need to tell you anything about this, but did it so HE wouldn't feel so guilty about it.

The best thing to do, just so it's acknowledged, but not made a big deal about since you do need to see her again, is to make a joke about it, like "I know my husband is hot, but you are not allowed to touch him! Don't do that again!" and then leave it alone. She should apologize but hopefully it will be quick and then done.

You guys sharing should not come into play at all - that's your choice and at your discretion.

Of course these are all my opinion but I hope it helps a little.

[littlebitlost]

thanks. It was her friend, She who kissed my hubby, not Auntie.

I take it that her friend was drunk when she did this?

I find it commendable that your hubby told you...sounds like a good relationship to me.

It's your decision--yup, a mixed bag!
In your place, I think I'd give the b***h the cold shoulder. She was drunk, that was a dirty lowdown trick to play on your hubby; she is beneath you, therefore not worth your energy. (or, rather mine-were I in your place)

However, if she ever did it again; or even looked askance at him; I'd have her head in a vice with the words I'd hurl...she wouldn't know what to do, scratch her watch or wind her ***.

I hope my input made some sense...in the end it's your choice. Pax-------theo

[Rhiannonsmoon]

I would fix her with a firm glare that says "I know what you did". He should have dropped her off first and in future I would insist that hubby not be left alone around this woman. The fact that this was done in front of her child really bothers me. It shows further that she has no respect for boundaries, and no regard for anything other than what she wants.

Don't, whatever you do blame yourself! You didn't do anything wrong. He told you about it and that is good because now you will know to protect him when she's around. I'd tell Auntie that her friend is a cougar...

Originally Posted by littlebitlost

thanks. It was her friend, She who kissed my hubby, not Auntie.

Sorry - been a little rough around here.

[littlebitlost]

It's all good.

She didn't do it in front of the kid. But boundaries? Married man??

She knows that I know.

[Perna]

I would ask yourself if it would have mattered as much if DH hadn't gotten turned on? I wonder why he told you at all? There may be more worth exploring in you and DH's relationship than you think. I would not care if a drunk woman kissed my husband. That my husband who does not enjoy drinking kissed a drunk woman back and enjoyed it. . . that would be a slightly different story (especially if he told me versus if I just saw/recognized it or never knew because nothing was going to come of it in any event so he did not tell me).

I don't mind that my husband gets turned on by other women; we're all sexual creatures, and I don't mind when my husband tells me he enjoys another woman as we're walking down the street or in a restaurant, together in public, but, in this instance, I'd want to know why he told me when I was not there and part of the experience? If it were just her kissing him, I could see his telling me, thinking I might enjoy sharing that and commiserating with him; she drunk and "disgusting" and he not? But what is the message were he to tell me he enjoyed kissing someone else? Is he complaining because I'm sick? Is he worried because he enjoyed it when he hadn't expected to? Why did he tell me this little, inconsequential thing unless it's not inconsequential?