[ljohnson3031]

I am new to this site and thought I would post here and ask for some help because ive tried many sites and havnt had any luck. Ive been dating this girl for 4 months and for the first 3 and a half it was a long distance relationship so i didnt really get to see her. Now she lives in the same city as i do and i see her everyday. She has a very bad past, as in sleeping around, stealing, drugs, etc. She doesnt do those things anymore but I have never been with a girl close to what she has been through. I am pretty sure this is the girl that I want to be with for a long time and dont want myself to be the cause of our relationship ending. I get upset and depressed over little things she does and it causes us to argue. Its completely my fault for getting upset at unreasonable and dumb things, for example she doesnt text me when she wakes up to say goodmorning, or when she drinks a beer (i hate drinking and drugs, think they are a waste of time and money), or when im not the center of attention when we are around eachother and other people. I spent a lot of money and time getting her to where i am now and i guess i expected things in return which is unfair to her. Its like whenever something little happens i have to bring it up to her and argue about it. I love this girl more than ive loved anyone and dont want to be apart from her, but if i dont figure out how to relax and not get upset about every little thing i will scare her away. Sometimes i just dont feel like im important to her or that she is thinking about me. We both are selfish and hypocritical, but i feel like its a one sided relationship sometimes. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you.

[Soul Quake]

Originally Posted by ljohnson3031

I spent a lot of money and time getting her to where i am now

You mean you paid for her to move closer to you?

We both are selfish and hypocritical

Then how do you expect this to work?

i feel like its a one sided relationship sometimes.

How so? There has to be more to this than her not sending texts when you desire them.

[ljohnson3031]

Originally Posted by Soul Quake

You mean you paid for her to move closer to you?

She was planning on moving anyway before she met me and we got together. So I helped pay and drove her to where I am now. I didnt pay her money to entice her or make her move. I was helping an already planned move.

Originally Posted by Soul Quake

Then how do you expect this to work?

We both can be those things. We arent all the time. Everyone is selfish and hypocritical at times. But for instance when she moved here she wanted to go to her place right away and I wanted her to come to my place and stay with me the first night. We both wanted different things and were being selfish in a way. Its not enough to end the relationship.

Originally Posted by Soul Quake

How so? There has to be more to this than her not sending texts when you desire them.

Sometimes I feel that I put more effort into things. I just feel that im not on her mind a lot because she is worried about herself. Its unfair for me to think that when she doesnt text me goodmorning that she isnt thinking of me but i cant help these things.