[beauflow]

I feel like a child due to one of my traits I have. Specifically its often more time with my brother than others.

My brother will ask for money and cigs and so on... He's down on his luck now so i'll throw a few bucks to him if I can, or sadly if I can't.
I just don't get me with him. I told him twice I may have trouble with my rent and all, yet he calls 2 more times and texts asking for money... I cave in and give it to him, I don't want him mad at me or if he is in a mood swing get really mad.
We have a troubled past, its hard to for me to explain. I don't want to paint him bad, he's a good guy but has terrible mood swings- bipolar... one time he scared me so bad while in an argumen a few years ago that I peed myself due to he was hitting walls and looking at me intently and yelling at me.... I just stood there waiting to be beaten.

I get told our past is why the way I feel. I guess so but I want help him unless its not for gas and food and so on...
I don't know if I could honestly ever tell him no to his request when he is persistent in the way he gets.

Put my self in a bind just for him to get Detox. What's wrong with me

[Leed]

Hi ~ I don't think there's anything "wrong" with you. I think you're just a nice person ~ and you don't like people being mad at you. I'm like that to some extent too -- but I've had to put my foot down so I'm not taken advantage of so often.

If/when your brother asks for money for cigarettes, etc., you DON'T have to enable him to buy those -- they aren't good for him, and he could put his money to better use! And the fact that at times it causes you to come up short in the money department isn't FAIR. Why should YOU go without just because HE wants cigarettes?? You have to take care of yourself FIRST -- because no one else will !! By saying "no" to your brother, you might teach him to be more careful with his money (although I doubt it. )

And don't worry if he gets mad -- he'll get over it, and I guarantee you that he'll come back asking you for money again! LOL Make him be more responsible by saying NO.

God bless & take care. hugs, Lee