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Jul 12, 2011, 11:33 PM
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Sorry about this being so long.
I'll start out with the basic information. My parents have been married for 17 years. I have a younger brother. We have legal custody of my 2 cousins (Emily is 6 and Alisia is 8). Our house is far too small for 6 people and 3 dogs. Me and my brother have our own rooms (my parents refuse to let us share a room). My cousins sleep in my parents bedroom. My parents sleep in the living room. My mom works 8AM-6PM and my dad is disabled. A normal day at my house during the school year: Go to school (7AM-4PM). When I get home my dad is either sleeping in the living room or screaming at my cousins for some little thing. (I got home once to hear him screaming at Alisia for 'following' him around the house!). I do my homework. I have to make sure my cousins have their room clean and then help make dinner. My brother, at this point, is on the computer playing games. When we get done with dinner, my mom gets home. We eat dinner, the whole time my dad is making fun of us, then I have to clean the kitchen. If I don't clean it my parents will fight for days about which one of them should havs cleaned it. I run and hide in my room for the night. My parents stay in the living room; fighting. They scream so loud I worry that the police might get called to my house. I hear doors slam and screaming all night! I cry myself to sleep on most nights. A normal day at my house when we don't go to school: I get up around 11AM because my cousins are being loud (thier room is next to mine). My dad comes in my room about that time to tell me to wake up. When I get out of bed I find that my brother is on the computer playing games. I get me something to eat and sit in the living room (I get screamed at if I go in my room  ). About 30 minutes later my dad is asleep again (I usually sneak to my room then). I have to fix my cousins a lunch around 12. My dad wakes up after that. He then starts screaming that my cousins need to stop eating every hour or something else that makes no sense. I hide in my room after lunch, only to hear him saying "She needs to get her lazy *** out of her f***ing room!". I try to avoid my dad as much as possible until dinner. Between lunch and dinner; my brother is playing on the computer, my dad is screaming about something or sleeping, and my cousins are trying to find something to do. When it's time to make dinner, I go and help. My brother is still on the computer, but my dad says "he (my brother) helped me all day. Unlike her (me). She stayed in her room all f***ing day!" When we finish making dinner my mom gets home. After we eat, my parents start fighting about something stupid. I go in my room untill everyone goes to bed (around 1AM because my brother stays on the computer all day). Then I leave my room to get something out of the kitchen, I don't sleep well if I don't eat/drink something before bed).I don't know what to day anymore!! My parents fight at least once a day. I mean there are holes in the walls were my dad threw things at my mom! My mom is wanting to leave, she just can't afford an apartment on her own. My mom says my dad is being emotionaly abusive (I think so too). My brother acts like he's not in the family anymore. I'm trying to get out of the house as much as possible (thank God for my friends!). Now my cousins, who have been through enough in thier lives, have to go through this!! I'm moving out as soon as I'm 18, so I hardly care anymore (16 years of this is more than enough!). I still want to try and help my 'family' a little, so my cousins can live in a more stable home. Can someone please help?!
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Last edited by LovesShelly; Jul 13, 2011 at 12:09 AM. |
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Jul 13, 2011, 12:28 AM
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Look into child protective services. Talk to a guidance counselor at school.
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Jul 13, 2011, 12:41 AM
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I really don't want to child protective services into this. My cousins are living in a much better place now and I don't want to mess it up for them. I feel that, if my parents would try to work things out, things here would get so much better.
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Jul 13, 2011, 03:02 AM
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As soon as I saw this "Family Portrait" popped into my head, then I saw it was your signature. Isn't it amazing how you can find the perfect song to describe any situation?
I know it can be hard growing up with parents that fight constantly and a dad who tends to punch holes in things... You have to keep in mind that it is not your fault and you may want to see if there are any particular teacher you look up to that you think would be willing to lend an ear. The counselor at your school doesn't sound like they should have a job there...
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Jul 13, 2011, 12:30 PM
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My parents think some of it is my fault, so it's a little hard not think it's my fault. The teachers at my school don't like me much, I'm a 'trouble maker' at school. The counselor at my school shouldn't have her job! She is soo mean and thinks she knows everything! I really wish she wasn't the counselor.
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Jul 13, 2011, 12:53 PM
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I completely understand. Do you have any older friends you can talk to or even like a really good friend of the same age you can confide in?
Do you plan on going to college after high school? College helped me a lot. I'm 19 and being away and not having to be surrounded by it at all hours of the day. Now that I'm back it's frustrating though, but I'm at a friend's place for a few days. I know how it feels to think it's your fault especially when your parents seem to think so too... But it is not. Maybe you could try going to a friends house for a few days. A break can do WONDERS.
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Jul 13, 2011, 01:06 PM
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 .I'm going to try for college. I'm hoping to find a good colloege thats not close to home. Well, my parents have told me that its my fault that they fight so much. I'm going to be at a freinds house all day Saturday, but I can't do anything before that .
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Jul 13, 2011, 01:10 PM
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find some support for yourself and start planning a future out of that war zone, soon you will grow up and get your own place. life will change soon .
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Jul 13, 2011, 01:18 PM
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