[maricris]

I met my boyfriend at my friend' house i called it (plan meet) he was 4x divorce he had a daughter on his first marriage but never seen her at all the last time he heard from her when she was 15y.o i guess. When it comes to his family he doesnt like to talk to his mom, i can say this guy has a lot of issues in life but because i love him i accepted him with no doubts. When i met him he is 6mos divorced to his fourth ex wife. He told me they been together for 5years, 5years with no life, he says the girl is depressed and she has problem of socializing with people, she doesn't want to spend money. On my first week of dating my boyfriend he told me questioning himself why he couldn't keep a wife? that puzzled me because i don't know yet until i found out the reason. My man love his car so much he could spend money to his car than his own. One day after he pick me up to work and ask me to stay with him, i asked him what is his plan in life, he says i have no plan in my life i life day by day. That made me realized and questioning myself whats going on a 48y.o man has no plan in life.? I broke up with him at first because of that. I do have 2 kids but they are not with me they live million miles away from me. He knew that i have kids. After that broke up he came to me and appologized, you know if you love a person even how sometime stupid he/she you can still understand. After a month of having a good time he just suddenly broke up with me, he went to my place and brought all my stuff in his house and says: here' ur stuff cuz were done.. I was literally totally shocked, surprised all the bad emotions flush back on me. He accused me of his check book which i swear to GOD never in my entire life to steal or do such thing like that. When i tried to explained gicing all my heart n emotion to him he only smile at me (makes me crazy) to make the story short he took all my stuff back to his house and we make up. We broke up many times i can't count and yet still we end of getting back together until one day we decided to separate for good. No phone calls/text I decided to go to other country for a job apportunities to start a new life. Yes maybe am running away from him and the pain. Almost a month that we don't communicate each other and am counting my days staying in my county before i go then suddenly i got a call from him, telling me that he went to a date but never work he realized that he needs me. Before i went to other state i talk to him and he said to me: When you come back live with me. When i was in the other state we talk/text every hour/day then he finally decided to visit me to proved it to me this time that he desperately inlove with me. I ask him if he is ready to be with somebody in his house and he says YES. He brought me back home and live with him after a month things change towards him. I saw big changes from him and i finally knew and get the answer why he couldn't keep a wife. He has a big obsession of his car, he doesn't know how to express himself. First month of having a relationship with him he has a problem of trusting me. I ask him how could you love me if u don't trust? answer from him: I DON'T KNOW. We been together for a year, on/off. This month is toattly awful/ terrible for me i am struggling i couldn't move on cuz i am so confused. He says he loves me and he doesn't want to lost me. We dont make love no more month and a half now (reason) were not married and no intention..??? He just said he lost his interest on me.. I ask him why since when? answer from him I DON'T KNOW.. that makes me insane.. i told him i knew the answer now why you couldn't keep a wife and i am helping you thats why i am still here not leaving with you. I told him he needs help. He is a type of man that you can't get any words from him. But when it comes of his car his personality change. I dont know what to do. I just broke up with him and still leaving with him and slept beside him, and do all the house chores. What keeps me holding on to this relationship, because he loves me and care for me. I don't know what to do to get on a right track. I dont what to say/do to him.. I need help and advice.. I love him so much everytime i left him he always wants me to come back so this time i aint gonna live him my choice but how and what to do to make things ok.. He is religious man very nice man but wierd. I am about to go insane in this situation.. I need help.. Thank you so much.. GODBLESS

[Leed]

Sweetie, this man has LOTS and LOTS of troubles. If you stay with him, you will be miserable all the time. My advice is to leave and stay gone! Don't come back to him. He has no idea what he wants or WHO he wants. He just wants someone -- it doesn't matter who.

Get away from him. You need someone who is more stable. You need someone who has a decent job, and is settled in life. You don't need someone who is in love with is CAR.

Go -- and make a new life of your own -- find someone who is good and loving. Take care and God bless. Hugs, Lee