Someone told me they love me and I like them too. Is it wrong to like people who I know on-line? I know who he is. he's not a rapist. He will never do that! But he is 2 years older than me. But as long I am happy then it's fine He is really kind and respects me. What do you lot think? Are online relationships wrong?

[SoupDragon]

I don't believe that on-line relationships are wrong. However in my experience they do not always translate into real life (I have met a few men off on-line dating sites and have had mixed experiences) - I think we can all be someone different on-line - for example I find it so much easier to be braver here on PC than I really am - couldn't share half the things I do on here with anyone else face to face.

So if you ever decided to meet this person face to face - first make sure you are meeting somewhere safe, but also be prepared that it may feel very different to talking on-line.

There of course is nothing wrong with restricting it to an on-line relationship - before computers people often had "pen friends" who they mever met but would write letters to - so conducting a relationship more remote from real life is not a completely new thing.

If this friendship makes you feel good, then to me that is the important thing - do please just be safe if you want to meet up, however well you think you know him from on-line chat.

SD

[missbelle]

On-line relationships with the opposite sex, especially someone saying he loves you can be..wait, I am trying to find the word here......not counting this site, men can be whoever they are online. This person may be a lot older then just two years...he can be anything or anyone, and you would not know. Because he sounds nice does not mean he is. Many pediophiles get their prey from online sites by being" nice". Never ever meet this person in a private place. Always meet in a very public place, and bring someone with you. They don't have to be right there but can be watching in the background.

Just be careful happycheeks. Things are not always as they seem!!!

Hugs;
Dee

[curlygirl1973]

I met my husband online 10 years ago, and here I am trying to deal with verbal abuse. BE CAREFUL. Online is a dangerous world. People tend to be something they are NOT behind the computer.

[Confusedinomicon]

I would recommend being careful too, but I know that online relationships can work. I met my boyfriend online and I couldn't say I'm happier. (There are some issues, but that comes with the territory of being in a relationship.) I think you have to be more weary when you're online but there are ways to find out if the person is really who they identify with. For instance, I found background info on my boyfriend and verified that he and his family really existed.

With any relationship you should become quite knowledgeable about signs of abuse. Read up and memorize it because it can save you a lot of heartache. It doesn't matter where you meet the person, or how you do, anyone can become a victim of abuse.

[specialeffects]

Originally Posted by Confusedinomicon

I would recommend being careful too, but I know that online relationships can work. I met my boyfriend online and I couldn't say I'm happier. (There are some issues, but that comes with the territory of being in a relationship.) I think you have to be more weary when you're online but there are ways to find out if the person is really who they identify with. For instance, I found background info on my boyfriend and verified that he and his family really existed.

With any relationship you should become quite knowledgeable about signs of abuse. Read up and memorize it because it can save you a lot of heartache. It doesn't matter where you meet the person, or how you do, anyone can become a victim of abuse.

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One thing Happycheeks .
Something that is hard to know also is, are you really the only one this person talks to on-line with the same desires as you feel ?
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I chose confused reply to quote from for I think what con, said is , great perspective. It worked !
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But at the same time , Good advice.
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