Is it normal...

Is it normal for me to be feeling sad, angry at her, and jealous of other guys because my girlfriend of 8 months met new friends (who are guys) and is spending all her time with them rather than me?

We went from talking to each other all day everyday, and basically loving each other, I guess, to barely talking at all while she spends more and more time with people who I don't even know. She's changed as well; she doesn't talk to me like I'm her boyfriend anymore. She treats me like I'm just another one of her friends. It almost seems like she wants to get rid of me sometimes.

I've told her how I felt, and she reassured me that they were just friends and that she loved me. Most of the time the two of us are very close; she's almost uncomfortably clingy. She usually always asks what I'm doing, she always wants to know how I'm feeling, she's always talking to my family, she always tells me she loves me... she always had something to say to me. If I was rude, I'd say that she never shuts up, but to be honest I love her and I love the attention she gives me.

It's so confusing to me because it all started happening so quickly; it literally only took a day for this to start happening and it's been going on for about a week now. As soon as she met these people, I've become the second priority. I know that there isn't a possibility of physical infidelity, but she has been emotionally unfaithful to me (our relationship is long-distance) on more than one occasion. It's usually the same scenario; she meets new friends and spends more time with them, putting me on the back-burner. She always gets too emotionally invested in new friends, and when they end up failing to live up to her expectations, or they hurt her, I've always been there for her. Even although she neglected me to get close to them. She flirts with them, gives them intimate information, and basically just pours emotion into them rather than me. Since our relationship is long distance, this bothers me even more.

I know this problem pales in comparasin to the other problems people are facing on this board, but I'm a very inexperienced lover and I'd just like a little bit of support on how to deal with my emotions, or whether she is in the wrong and should not be acting this way. I'm a sensitive guy and little things like this really hurt me. Please don't poke fun; I realize that my problem is petty compared to the others here, but it's embarrassing for me to ask for help and I wouldn't be doing it unless I really thought I needed it.

Sorry but it sounds like she wants to move on and just hasn't figured out how to tell you. Life is too short for games. Ask her right out if it's over. At least you’ll know where you stand.

long distance relationship? Like were you two ever non long distance?

What are you doing with your life right now? Are you meeting people and having friends? Your long-distance relationship sounds more like you are the mother and she is a toddler - she is trying out new things, and when she falls, she runs back to mummy. I'm not trying to be flip or insulting. I just know that we can act out unresolved issues in current relationships and they can generate very intense feelings. So yes I would say it's normal, but I would also say there are better directions to take your life in.

I believe you need to find a local woman and go on real dates and develop a real relationship with someone emotionally healthy. That probably isn't what you want to read, but I think it is what you need.

To me it sounds like she's missing the intimacy you two have and seen as though you two are not close (distance wise) she is looking for these friendships to fill that gap. It sounds like you are investing a lot in this relationship and yes you may love her and I am not contesting that, but you need to care about other people too, have other relationships (friendships with people).

Listen to her, believe and trust her when she says she loves you and still wants to be with you. If you don't trust her, that is how you risk loosing her.

I hope you don't mind me asking, it just makes it easier to understand. How far apart are you distance wise? and do you see each other often?

Trust her take care