Who has a good relationship with their mom?

Does anyone on here have a really good relationship with their mom's? If so, what does it feel like? I just wondered what it would feel like to be able to go to their mothers with anything?

Hey PrettyLittleBlue,

I guess I do I mean my Mum and I fight but we also get along and can spend time with eachother. She knows I love her and I know deep down she loves me.... even if we find it hard to say it. I see my friends and their Mum's and think god I wish that was me. However what makes a good relationship for 1 person is probably miles different for another. My Mum and I tend to spend time together in the house watching dvd's or making the dinner.

I have an O.K. relationship with my mother but it's not easy. My mother has caused me more grief than anyone else on earth but I love her and try to deal with her the best I can. For all we endured growing up, my siblings and I all turned out to be hardworking, responsible adults but I honestly don't know how we kept our sanity at times.

The best relationship I have on earth is with my daughter and maybe that's due in large part to how difficult my mother has always been. All my adult life I've tried to tell myself that Mother is the way she is for some unknown reason - I guess her intentions have always been good but her personality and ideas about everything have made for some of the worst times of my life.

sorry can't offer my experiences. my mother was emotionally non-existant towards me. i always wanted a nurturing mom. but for me it didn't ever happen. she's passed away now.

I sometimes do and then I sometimes don't
It feels nice when she is kind to me

what's a mom ??? I'm glad some ppl have good mom relationships, I really envy it in the good envy way... good for those that can do it, even if there are tiffs sometimes.
I hope to see more positive posts of moms and relationships... I like my boyfriends mom she's really nice

sorry i can't offer anything on good moms, mine was too wrapped up in herself to notice my feelings. i was just a skivvy to her, one to be seen but not heard. i do find warmth though that others have experienced a special bond with their moms.

My mom and I used to have a terrible relationship but over the last few years it has improved dramatically. However, my relationship with my dad is terrible at best - if even existent at all. It does feel good to have a better relationship with my mom but it came after a couple decades of screaming and almost hatred. My sister and my mom didn't speak for over 2 years over some stupid fight. However, I think my mom finally being able to forgive my dad for all he did while they were married made her a lot better and happier. She's just an overall awesome person. Sorry you don't experience that.

My Mom and I have our battles. Albeit, I deeply care about her. She has been through a lot, yet keeps on giving of herself.

My mom is really nosy and we had a rocky relationship when she was opposed to me dating my boyfriend. However, now I can say with confidence that she just cared for me. We get along now, although shes a bit annoying sometimes.

I know my mom loves me but she is passive aggressive and will not acknowledge problems like my younger sister's aggressive behaviors or that her brother sexually assaulted me as a child (she did not find out until I was adult). Some ways she is supportive and others she is not.

My Mom is my only female friend. She supports me unconditionally and is always there for me and my son. She has made mistakes in her past, as have I but she has never given up on me. Even when she simply could not comprehend my mental illness. She is now living next door to me and even though it was a traumatic move (the house was filthy) she is enjoying being close to her family. I am lucky and blessed to have my Mom. I worry about her health as she is in denial about a couple of things and I simply could not bear to lose her.

Thanks for all the replies. Good mom's seem scarce on the ground these days. I just sometimes wonder HOW it feels to have a strong nurturing bond with a mom.

Is it a safe feeling, that she can sort out any problem? Is it a homely feeling when you're with her? Can you revert back to child status to an extent around her?

I wish i knew how it felt.

I believe it is rare to have a person who did not experience the so called "mother wound". At certain point in our lives we really have to take responsibility of healing upon ourselves. Well, not really have to, there is no law that says we cannot go to our grave feeling bitter towards our mother, hating her, wishing she was that mythological good mother someone else had. We don't have to, but it is worth trying, because just like any wound, if we can heal it we will feel better.

Here is an excerpt of the article I have once encountered on the topic.
"There is a series of techniques and reflections you can use to practice what I call the "yoga of the mother wound" to transform what has been a hindrance in your life into a teacher of the heart. "Transform" does not mean to fix or make go away whatever trauma and scars you may be carrying from childhood; instead, you slowly develop a new relationship with your difficulty, such that it is no longer a controlling factor in your life. What may seem like an intractable wound may even become a point of inspiration and deep understanding for you."
If you're interested read the rest here:

http://www.lifebalanceinstitute.com/dharmawisdom/articles/healing-your-mother-wound

I think my mom and I had a pretty great relationship. There were a few things I never felt comfortable talking to her about, e.g. sex, but even that topic at certain times I was able to breach with her.

She was an amazing woman: strong, smart, independent. She raised my sister and I pretty much completely on her own, while at the same time running her own various businesses, volunteering, remodeling our house.

Sure, at times, she was annoying (all moms are) and once in a while we fought, but those were small instances.

As for how it felt, yes, being with her was like being home. Once I became an adult, that child-like feeling went away and it didn't come back just because I was with her. That was okay. Our relationship morphed from that of mother-child to one of friend-friend. She didn't have answers for everything; often, I didn't like her answers. But, she was always there for me, and when I was really lost, when everything had gone to hell and I couldn't think of anything to do except to sob and sob, I could call her and she would make me see the bright side. One of the things I said at her funeral was, "When you don't know what to do, what do you do? You call your mom." That was how it was for me.

Now, when things are in the *******, the fact that I don't have my mom to go to just makes everything a degree worse. I often will be upset over something else, only to remember I don't have Mom to ask and will then find myself grieving over her.

When she died, one of the things I lost was the type of love that a mother has for her daughter - no one will ever love me like she did. Of course, the last three or so years, when she was sick, were hard. Our relationship wasn't how it had always been nor how it should have been. My sister and I became the caregivers, the decision-makers. We were the mom's in the situation. She died way too young (60) and my sister and I lost our mom far sooner than was fair (25 and 23).

Cancer's a hell of a disease.

My mom and I have a rocky relationship, we have moments when we get along, but we have more moments when we are arguing. There are a lot of things that annoy me about her and vice versa. We are not that close, she doesn't really know what is going on with me anymore, and I guess if something horrible happened I could count on her. I attribute our relationship to the fact that I'm 17, I'm establishing myself as a person (growing up and such) we have some conflicting personality traits.

One of my friends has a great relationship with her mother, they tell each other almost everything and her mom is the same with me and some of her other friends (She is also our girl scout leader so she knows us well). I believe she knows more about me than my mom. I always get a little sad and I wish my mom was like that, but my mom and I are just such different people that things I find funny she doesn't, and we don't share a taste in movies (etc. again different traits and such). So I guess I can't really answer your question that well. But I do get the taste of having a good relationship with a "mom" and it's nice.

i have a good relationship with my mam i think for her growing up with a mother who ahd anxiety gave her a good understanding of this and i can talk to her

Thanks, i will read this.

Brianna- thank you so much for your description. It's kind of how i imagined it should be. I'm sorry for your loss.