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The other day I was out with one of my closes friends for some drinks. He told me some bad news. He is thinking about moving to another state. When he told me this, I was so shocked to hear that was thinking about moving. I said to him that if he feels like thats the right thing to do, then go for it. I really do want whats best for him. But at the same time I am feeling a little sad because he might move. We have been going on dates a lot this summer. We never dated before but I know him really well. We know each other from middle school and we know each others family really well. I do like him a lot but not in a boyfriend way. He did say that, he would stay if there was a reason to. I know he like me and care about me a lot, just in that way. I want to tell him to stay for me but at the same time I want him to be happy. I know he is not really happy right now. So a new start can be good for him. So my question is: Should I say what's on my mind or not?

[Yoda]

Say what's on your mind yes. Tell him you are going to miss him because he is a good friend. Tell him you hope to stay in touch. Skype maybe?

Asking him not to go though I wouldn't do. Maybe once he is settled in you could visit him for a weekend once in awhile.

[afterrain]

This is what I want to tell him. But I am very afraid of what he would say back to me.

I want to find the words to tell you how I feel. I want to find the words to tell you to stay here with me. I want to be with you but I don't know in what way. I want you to want me but afraid you may not want. I want to tell you all this but I don't know how you will react to it. I want you in my life even if that means as just friends. I rather have you in my life than nothing all. The sad part is, I think I'm falling for you. I care to much just to let you go with out a fight. I want to see what could be between us. But I don't want to loss you as a friend. The question is where do we go from here?

What should I do?

[moonbeam2]

i beleave always say what you feel cause if you dont your always gonna wounder,set the record straight when you have the chance,if its hard for you to tell him then its that much more important to tell him ,if he stays & things dont work out he can always go later ! good luck !

[RomanSunburn]

This is just my opinion, and it could be totally way off base...

But I think he was trying to feel you out to see whether or not you're interested in him as more than a friend. I think if you are, then you should tell him that if he stayed, you'd like to see where things go, but you'd also be willing to see where things went if he moved also (only if you're really willing to see where a long distance relationship would go). But I do feel like if you know you don't want to date him or ever be anything other than friends, than you should let him go. Tell him you're going to miss him, and make plans to try to visit each other, but don't tell him to stay.

[afterrain]

Update: I ask my friend if he made up is mind on moving or not. He said that he was not moving right now. That he will help his sister move and see if he likes it other there before he makes his mind up. I told him thats good that his is checking it out before he moves. Inside I'm a little happy to hear that. That means I have more time with my friend. And try to really figure out my true feeling for him. I have not said anything to him on how I feel for him. I told my other friends about how I feel for him. They all said I should not say a thing to him. Just wait and see what happen first. They could be right, you know, if I say something that he will do something different. But I want to say how I feel to him but I do not know how to do that. It so hard for me to make up my mind on telling him how I feel. What to do? What to do?