[sarahlarissaa]

My Boyfriend and I have many many many problems and i cant trust him. weve been together for two years and i love him to death. I have problems.. I stalk the main girl he cheated on me with.. its unhealthy. I need help so bad. theyre not together, but he left her twice, just ot go back while we were dating. the only reason he did it is because she was nice and I was rude (because I found out he cheated). He started dating us two days apart so he couldnt chose one of us.. He obviously loves me more but hes a HUGE liar.. Im sick of it. I want to die because of it.

Basically I hate who he's become. Im crying and havnt slept because even tho it was MONTHS ago, he ****ed another girl.. and i found out it was more than once, which he claims it was. HELP

[Leed]

You don't deserve to be treated like this. Why stay with him and make yourself so miserable? Get RID of this loser -- he doesn't respect you or your relationship!!! You're letting him get away with murder -- ditch him and find someone who WILL treat you decently!!
It will hurt for a little while, but later you're realize that he just wasn't the "one."

Find a guy who will treat you as your deserve to be treated! God bless & take care of YOU. Hugs, Lee

[shezbut]

(((sarahlarissaa)))

He is the loser ~ not you. You don't deserve to be treated as though you're invisible. You do deserve a decent relationship, with someone who respects and cares for you!

Following the "main girl" around isn't healthy, you're right. And, really, she shouldn't be the one who you're primarily angry with. Letting some anger out towards that girl isn't going to make you feel any better. After all, it was your boyfriend who made the mistake. (I'm not saying that I wouldn't have anything against her, I probably would.) What I am saying is : You are letting your boyfriend call the shots, even though he cheated on you.

That's not right.

I believe that you probably ARE scared to be without him. Scared to be alone. But... He isn't worth your devotion! YOU deserve love and respect. As long as you hold the truth (that he is a slimeball and that you deserve much better) inside, the longer those dark feelings and thoughts will be inside of you.

That is misery ~ either kick him out or hit the road yourself. Move beyond this crummy part of life. You do deserve much better than him! Gentle hugs sent your way.

Welcome to the Community, sarahlarissaa. May you find a way to do what is best for you.

Good luck.

[Blades]

It's not really my place to say but if he makes you feel like you want to die you should break up with him. Nobody should make their partner feel this way.

[rubyindie]

what would you do if you found out that an eatery you go to served food thats ok but you found dead flies in the food occasionally, something tasted bitter occasionally. would you go back to that place? my guess is you wont! well sorry for being so blunt but you get the picture? u sure deserve better for the investment you are putting in . take care girl...

[lynn P.]

I know it hurts like hell to be cheated on. I have learned that a person who does this to you, ISN'T worth your life at all. He's not worthy of your love and this isn't a healthy relationship. Pretend for a minute you could shop for a partner - you're browsing the isles and come upon your BF. There's a description on his tag that says "liar, cheater and does whatever he pleases". Would you choose this person?? Ditch him and never look back. Savor in the thought that he'll do the same to this woman. Live well so he can see you're better off without him. I hope one day you'll find a kind man who's worthy of your love.

[Open Eyes]

Sarahlarissa,

It is obvious that this guy is only concerned about HIS needs, whoever he is with.
Too bad you can't look up his about me to see what is behind this behavior pattern of his, because there always is and issue behind and issue.

What concerns me more is how YOU take this behavior. Do you have a therapist?
If you don't than you should look into getting one. Because you have an issue of some kind that allows you to react this drastic, and you don't deserve to feel like your life is over because of someone elses issues. And your desire to stalk the other girl is not good either and you even admit that yourself. You need to find out why you react this way.

Now I could sit here an massage your ego and tell you this guy is a real jerk if you want me to. But that is not really going to help YOU. And I am more interested in helping YOU. So my advice is to find a good therapist and make the decision to help YOU. And forget the guy and that other girl, that is not at all, in any way, productive for YOU.

Open Eyes