[loveistheanswer]

My boyfriend and i have been dating since august 4, 2010. This is my first real relationship. What i mean by this is he loves me for me, he doesnt have high expectations, and he doesnt want "just one thing."

I know that he is THE ONE. I want to marry him and have a family. That would make me the happiest person in the world to just be with him and near him.

The problem is that we both have had our share of messing up our beautiful relationship. I said a few choice words about his mom a few months back. I was very upset at the time and vented on facebook and she read it. Things such as she shouldnt be a parent etc. On top of that i went and saw him at his house once for about 5 minutes while his mom was gone. SHe found out and was furious, which is understandable. ANd she had a high phone bill because we would call each other and talk everyday on my cell phone, but its an out of town number.

I should mention that i am 18 and he is 16. Our parents dont want us to be together, only based on our ages. Now it is to the point where i am not allowed to contact him AT ALL. If i talk to him or see him she said she will put a restraining order on me.

It hurts so much to be lonely through all of this. And to not have him to talk to. We tell each other EVERYthing and we are so alike.

About 4 days before all of this happened, he broke up with me, for 30 minutes. Then he said it was the biggest mistake of his life. We talked it over and realized we were both under so much stress and pressure.. We got back together that night. ANd now this..

Im just confused and dont know where to go from here. I am willing to wait 2 years until he is 18 its just the wait in between. and the loneliness.

Sorry this was so long. I have kept all this inside for almost a month now.

[SophiaG]

Uh, restraining order? She can't do that. Can she? ??? It's not like you're a stalker or abusive right?

Try not to run up her phone bill.

Oh and don't say anything on facebook you wouldn't have everyone in your life read lol.

[loveistheanswer]

Im not really sure if she can do that or not? im not big into the legal process and all. No im not abusive and i dont follow him around everywhere.

Yes i have started writing in a journal now which seems to help me get my emotion out without all to see.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by SophiaG

Uh, restraining order? She can't do that. Can she? ??? It's not like you're a stalker or abusive right?

Try not to run up her phone bill.

Oh and don't say anything on facebook you wouldn't have everyone in your life read lol.

yes parents can get restraining orders for their children if the parents have custody and who ever they told to stay away from their minor children persists on seeing them.

in some places in the USA it is called -

stalking,
harassment,
grooming a child for possible future abuse,
encouraging delinquency in a minor
pedophilia

when an adult (someone 18yrs of age and above) continues to seek out contact with minors (anyone under the age of 18) after they have been told by the custodial parent no contact is allowed.

until the child is removed from the mothers and fathers care through the courts its up to the mother and father to make the decisions as to which adults (people 18 and above) their under aged son can be in contact with.

to the original poster-

the mother has told you no contact. if you really love this boy leave him alone, give him a chance to grow up, to be an adult. the mother says no more phone calls and no more visits behind the parents backs.

unless you want to be in trouble with the law for stalking, harassment and what ever else your location calls an 18 yr old chasing after a 16 yr old against the younger ones parents permission its time to back off and do what the mother said. time to leave him alone and let him grow up.

if the love you two have for each other is right and meant to be he will come find you in two yrs.

[SophiaG]

16 years and up is the age of consent though. :/

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by SophiaG

16 years and up is the age of consent though. :/

not in all places and all things. here in ny the age of consent is 17 for getting married, 21 for drinking alcohol. a 13 yr old can decide which divorced parent they want to live with but at 16 can apply to be an emancipated minor so they can live with a boyfriend /girlfriend or other friend. consenting to contracts is 18 and consenting to sex is 17.

each location has their own rules and things teens can and cant consent to. but as a general law and rule in the USA where minors (people under 18) are concerned the rule is unless otherwise stated by the court parents are liable for their children until they are 18 some places in the usa that law says 21.

I just had a runaway aged 16 I had to return home because here she has to be an emancipated minor or under the guardianship of someone over the age of 18. since there was no abuse at home going on that would enable me to remove her from the home, she had to go back. I am going to keep in touch with this family because I know shes capable of being on her own and her family is on hard times right now.

the age of consent isnt always the same within the same state either. in some situations they go case by case. I have a 20 yr old client who is not capable of consenting to contracts and personal issues like sex, health issues. the court has set his age of consent at 25.

some places have recently changed their rules for consenting to contracts, health issues and sex higher because their towns, cities and states have a high teen pregnancy rate and teens in the past few years have been making pregnancy contracts with their friends and the courts are now trying to remedy this situation.