[Mary01]

I am a masters student, 23. I just recently joined a grad program in the summer and met this amazing guy. He told me he was bipolar, and though he was a bit of an oddball (shy and different) I didn't really think too much of it because I didn't know much about it. I have never felt more comfortable in a relationship and more loved. I don't really know where to start, but when we were first hanging out as friends he would get insanely jealous of other guys who were around. He is also very religious, but he wanted to have sex with me right away, and after we did, he would feel very guilty, praying in the bed, only to do it right again. Towards the end of the relationship, he had a counseling appointment over the phone, but he refuses to take medicine and didn't go any further.
I am not without flaws. I am a major bluffer and the small fights we would have (for example, he might get mad about another guy I talked with, etc.) I would be like " well, maybe we're just not right for each other," telling him it was over, wait a minute, and confess that I was not serious. He seemed estatically happy that we were still together though, and this never detered him from wanting to stay together in the past. He even wrote me a letter once when I was sleeping about how much he loved me and I was the best girlfriend he'd ever had, only to tell me at the end that I was the worst one he'd ever had.
Only to find out after the two months we were together that I had been trying to seduce him and take him away from god, a terrible person because I got tired of the things he would say and do and bluffed a lot even though I really do love him when he's not having a manic episode, etc.
He finally dumped me, in which he was cold as ice telling me we couldn't even be friends and I literally drove him insane, he didn't love me and he didn't find me attractive. We haven't spoken in two days now, which I told him not to talk to me since I was so hurt (I literally begged him to stay with me last time I saw him and he kept looking at his watch while I was crying saying "so, when are you going to leave?). I really don't think I can stand this for the future, but I do still miss him and love him (so basically, I'm not sure), and I just wonder if anyone has gone through this and if there is any hope that he'll come back?
Also, to make matters worse, one of my friends saw him walking messing with his phone and a girl he told me he liked when we first met (just as friends) was running after him calling his name.
I just don't know what to do. I also get jealous and I'm worried he's already moved on. Any advice. Not that it's too relevant, but he is 27 years old.

[Soul Quake]

There's more here to be "worried" about than other females possibly being pursued, or his feelings toward you diminishing. And that is - he is unwell. He is a possible danger to himself and/or others. If there are any family members of his that you can contact, perhaps you should let them know what is going on in case they are unaware.

Another area of concern:

I have never felt more comfortable in a relationship and more loved.

Most people who are in relationships with bipolars certainly wouldn't use the word "comfortable" when describing those relationships. And being "insanely jealous" is not indicative of love.

He's mentally unstable, you admittedly aggravate his condition. Do both of yourselves a favor by hoping he will not come back, and if he does, do not engage him.

[Victom4ever]

sorry you were hurt so!! Bipolar is tuff esp if not taking meds, please be safe!! and boundaried!!
hugs

[IceCreamKid]

I say this with the utmost of respect: I think you say you love this man to justify having sex with a virtual stranger who turned out to be severely ill and in no position to build a future with anyone. Do yourself a big favor and take any future relationship more slowly.