[Visioneer]

You are not my father.

"Room mate, could you please not use my glasses? I don't use your glasses because I don't want to break them."

"You don't want me to use your glasses because you're afraid I'll break them?"

"...Yes."

"Well, that's too darn bad."

I bought a set of glasses so that I would have a matching set to offer guests. I keep them stacked at the back of the cupboard. Normally I only drink out of the mugs that I keep at the front. However, I keep noticing that my glasses are disappearing, and that when he has guests, they are always using my glasses, when he has his own. Now apparently he keeps one of my glasses beside his bed at all times with water in it, and one in his bathroom to rinse his teeth! I don't think I'm over reacting, because he does break my stuff and take it without asking. This has been an ongoing thing for years.

This from the guy who has absolutely no respect for my belongings, personal space (he walks right into my room too), or apparently adulthood. I don't even know how much of my stuff he has lost or destroyed. I am so tired right now I don't want to deal with this. What am I supposed to do?

I'm not even as mad about the glasses right now as I am the fact that he is totally disrespecting me by saying "It's too darn bad" like I'm his child or something. I have no idea how to stand up for myself, it seems. All I have wanted to do for days is crawl into a dark hole and stay there. Right now I want to go to bed and I don't give a crap what else happens.

[CedarS]

Sorry you are going through this, sounds incredibly frustrating. (((( Visioneer ))))

[Leed]

Hi ~ You have a couple of options -- one is to muster up some nerve and CONFRONT this idiot and tell him that you've had ENOUGH and if he doesn't stop it, you'll be forced to take action. (don't mention WHAT action -- I don't have a clue what you could do. ) LOL

Secondly, why are you continuing to LIVE with him? It seems that if I was being disrespected like this, I'd move out and find another place to live. I KNOW that it's not easy finding affordable apartments, but it CAN be done with a little work. If you have a lease, talk to the landlord about getting OUT of it because this guy is a crackpot. Then move out -- that seems to be the best option.

Take care & best of luck. Hugs, Lee