[FloatLikeAButterfly]

Just to sayyy- My mom is the most beautiful woman inside and out, a good person, who tries her best, and has so much love.

she is ill though, and my old psychologist says i am constantly looking for a mother figure.

i feel soo guilty about it, because of how much i love my mother- and i dont think i could ever replace her......but i cant help always finding and becoming attached to another woman who i subconsiously see as a mother figure.

Any info, or familiar expirences on mother figures would be highly appreciated.

[Caretaker Leo]

Try not to think in terms of replacing your mother. She can't be replaced. But it really is ok to find a connection with someone who can provide the "mother figure" you seem to need.

When I was in high school, my best friend's mom became my "second mom". My own sons have second moms, too. I don't feel threatened - instead it gives them some other mature insight on challenges in life.

[Visioneer]

They say it takes a whole village to raise a child.

The part of you that needs to be nurtured will gravitate toward sources of nurturing, and some see that as a mother figure. It certainly doesn't mean you are childish, or that you are abandoning your mom or feel that she wasn't doing a good job. It's perfectly alright to be searching for other sources of support during the time that your mom is ill, or any time. As long as there is a positive outcome from these interactions, and you're not replaying a scenario of dysfunction, this is a good way for you to reach out and learn. We're lucky if we find lots of mothers in life, and lucky when we get to be one, as well.

[FloatLikeAButterfly]

Thank you both, i feel alot better- and alot less guilty (: