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#1
Sep 25, 2011, 01:28 AM
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My husband and his family have a strange relationship. They either hate one another this week or love each other. What concerns me is that he discusses EVERYTHING that happens between us with his sisters. It upsets me that they know every time we have had an argument. Is this acceptable?
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Sep 25, 2011, 09:40 AM
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I guess for me, it would depend on why he is discussing it with him. If he thinks talking about your issues will make him a better husband, liking trying to figure out how women think, that sort of thing, or how he can make things better, that would be ok with me.
But if he is just talking to them to bash you, or if he is looking for someone to feel sorry for him or agree with him that he is right when you argue, that would not be ok with me. |
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Sep 25, 2011, 01:06 PM
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No, I don't think this is acceptable. What goes on between the two of you is PRIVATE. By discussing this with family, it makes it easier for family to " take sides" and eventually split the family in two.
If he feels he needs to discuss your business, he should do it with a therapist, who doesn't have any "investment" in the relationship. Tell him you don't appreciate everyone knowing your business, and you'll like it to stop. If you feel there are serious problems in the marriage, offer to go to counseling with him. It might do some good, plus you can learn how to "fight fair." Best of luck and God bless. Hugs, Lee 
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Sep 25, 2011, 04:26 PM
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I don't think it is fair to you. What is between you two should not be anybodies business but yours. And of course they will be on his side.
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Sep 26, 2011, 04:00 PM
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[QUOTE=bswc;2038253]My husband and his family have a strange relationship. They either hate one another this week or love each other. What concerns me is that he discusses EVERYTHING that happens between us with his sisters. It upsets me that they know every time we have had an argument. Is this acceptable?[/QU no its not acceptable. These are your private matters between husband and wife, and since there seems to be some drama in the family they could use it to insult you when they are angry. Its understandable he needs to vent, he just needs to find another way. Maybe he can talk with a good friend whose discreet and understanding. Id express how you feel without including frustration, good luck.
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