[mittens53]

My daughter is 34 years old with a 4 year old and they are currently living with me, My daughter is bipolar and I am trying to find a support group in which to learn how to communicate with her. We do not seem to be able to talk at all and the frustration level is rising. She disappears for the night and I am left to babysit (I do not mind that part) but I feel I should know where she is in case of emergancy. Most times she says I will be home later but I usually get a text around 1:30 - 2:00 am saying have had a few beers will sleep and be home 5:45. I am scared of her behavior yet do not know how to talk with her about this, I have tried but must tell you with no luck as I do not know how to and we always end up fighting.........PLEASE HELP

[lad007]

I went through a similar situation with my daughter.
You can make a difference, and are, in your grandchild's life. Providing stability and a loving environment. Focus on that. As you have found, you can't control what your daughter does. But you can control your influence on your grandchild, and know that they are being well cared for, by you.
The child is lucky to have you, don't miss the precious moments. Sometimes we, as grandparents have to go through a lot.

[IceCreamKid]

Booze and unstable behavior don't mix with child rearing. Do your grandchild a favor and see about making arrangements to be the child's guardian, so that if your daughter decides to move in with whoever she's drinking with, she can't drag the child along with her.