[FloatLikeAButterfly]

I just don't get it.

I am friendly, funny, pretty, intelligent, understanding, loyal, honest, and a good listener.

I take care of myself, regardless of my poor self esteem and depression- i mean i always hide it so im not a negative nelly!

I don't understand why guys don't ask me out, or notice me as anything mor than a friend. NOt to be mean but some of the popular girls are really nasty inside and out- and they have ALWAYS got a cute guy.

I know i am a better person than some girls that have guys, and am just as pretty. So i don't understand why not me?

Sure i don't dress slutty, and i have only ever kissed one guy......but i thought guys had more respect for girls like that.

Having a boyfriend isnt everything, for real i could care less- i need to focas on my schooling.....i just want to know what is wrong with me......

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by FloatLikeAButterfly

I take care of myself, regardless of my poor self esteem and depression- i mean i always hide it

Like the wrinkle cream commercial says, Don't hide it (your age), Defy it (your low self-esteem)! That is, maybe you're not hiding it as well as you think, and maybe that dishonesty is off-putting. It may appear as if you feel you have something to hide. I am sorry your mom is ill. There is nothing wrong with looking for a mother figure at this time of your life, perhaps a school counselor or teacher of a favorite subject can help? Please keep writing here, there are a lot of resources here.

[FloatLikeAButterfly]

yeah your right!
And thank you hankster (:

[StrongerMan]

Hi, had to reply to this. Don't know how old you are but, I can tell you without a doubt, the girls guys seem to ignore in school are the one's they kick themselves year's later for not having asked out. And it usually works the other way around too. You just may be overlooking a great guy or two yourself, but you may have to do some of the work. It can pay off. The guys that only go for the "popular" girls usually aren't worth the time of day. Find yourself a guy that may not yet have grown into his looks but gets straight A's in math and science.

[FloatLikeAButterfly]

thats very wise! and yeah youre right, i mean i try and try- but i want to find the right guy. Im friends with alot of the so called "nerds" who are good in science and math and stuff, but its weird to think of them not as friends, ya know? but i will give another look
Thanks strongerman (:

[afterrain]

I just have to ask: are you in high school? If so, it is normal to feel that way. When I was in high school, I would feel the same way that you are feeling now. I can tell you that it gets better. All the guys that don't ask you out now, will one day ask you out later. I know that to be a fact. Its happening to me. Guys at a young age just want to have fun and be with a girl that willing to do anything. You know what I mean, "it". Most of these guys will grow up and start to look for a good girl. Because good girls are the ones the guys want to married. So all that you can do for now is just wait for the right one. He will come to you and you will know that he is the right guy for you. Good Luck.

[Inedible]

Originally Posted by FloatLikeAButterfly

Sure i don't dress slutty, and i have only ever kissed one guy......but i thought guys had more respect for girls like that.

It isn't slutty to wear things that draw attention to your assets, especially if you can wear it with confidence.

Whatever you do, don't listen to what other women think makes a woman look sexy. Unless she is a lesbian. They really don't know, any more than I know what makes a man sexy.

When men look at a woman and they are interested in having fun, they look more at her body. When they are ready to settle down for the long term they look at her face more. I wish I could cite my source; it was a recent study. Anyway, are you really ready to settle down?

[beauflow]

I think you should be yourself- I know that is probably an old woman saying (im not that old though I dont think ) but I am a bit on the soft side :-P...

I to a point agree with Inedible,- I Do agree if you can wear something that you feel comfortable in but yet you feel beautiful and attractive and/or sexy in too go for it. But if you don't feel comfortable, or if you feel it's degrading, Don't make yourself to be like someone you think men would want... after all don't you want them to want and like you for you?

IDK if that makes sense and IDK if that even relates.

[FloatLikeAButterfly]

Yeah i am in high school, and i am sure they will mature one day. Thanks for reminding me that alot of people feel like that and to hang in there a little bit longer (:

[missbelle]

Guys in high school usually are rather immature and I bet you are not.....Give them time......they are slow learners as well!!

[space1234567]

FloatlikeButerflyy you don't need to think that something is wrong with you.do not know how old youare I am25 and time by time I am being in the same situation as you.and I understood what's the problem.THE PROBLEM IS INSIDE.INYOUR MIND AND ONLY.you just need to meet a good guy who will appreciate you as you are.Good guys are not much.that's why you haven't met.but you will.GOOD BOY ALWAYS CHOOSE A GOOD GIRL.As for other girls I will say well...maybe they are silly I mean they choose a boy not vice versa.one day you will meet a your dream boy.I forgot the most important thing.I WROTE ABOUT THE PROBLEM IN MIND RIGHT?SO STOP THINKING YOU DO NOT HAVE A BOYFRIEND.JUST START BELIEVE THAT YOU WILL HAVE EVERYTHING YOU WANT.START THINKINK POSITIVELY(I KNOW IT IS HARD).EVERYTHINK IS IN YOUR HANDS YOU JUST NEED TO RULE THEM.RISE YOUR SELF ESTEEM.May I ask Did you have a sad childhood?have you grown up in a full family?do you have a father?these are personal questions you can not to answer I just wanted to understand where from your thoughts come from.everything will be ok.have a nice day.if any help I am here.

[FloatLikeAButterfly]

thank you so much!!
you are so wise, so so wise!
Yeah, i did/do have a hard childhood- but i try not to think about it, i do have a full family, except my mom is kinda messed up physically and emotionally- but not mean or anything. And i do have a dad who i love so so much.
Thank you again (:
and i dont mind personal questions