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Old Oct 02, 2011, 11:01 AM
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i know that many of us have strived for keeping our relationships healthy and rewarding. i thought this article was most useful. hopefully this may benefit others too. having respect for the partner and their needs as well as our own is important too.

Couples who practice these techniques have longer and stronger relationships
Published on July 11, 2011 by Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D. in Emotional Fitness
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1. Successful relationships take work. They don't happen in a vacuum. They occur when the couples in them take the risk of sharing what it is that's going on in their hearts and heads.
2. You can only change yourself, not your partner. If you love someone and think that after a while he or she will alter behaviors you find uncomfortable, think again. If you want changes, put them on the table. so your partner knows what you need, etc.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...onship-healthy
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Old Oct 02, 2011, 11:39 AM
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how apt for all of life, maddy: quote[You can only change yourself]
best wishes,, Gus
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Old Oct 03, 2011, 12:57 PM
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I have been married to the same man for over 30 years. I still get excited when I get to spend the day with him. I think we found the secret to a long, happy relationship. But....

Several years ago he was depressed and so was I. We were just bringing each other down and life was miserable. I was seriously thinking about leaving when a friend gave me a copy of the book that was a compilation of the "Can This Marriage Be Saved?" articles from "Ladies Home Journal." I read the entire book in one night. What I learned is that in almost every case where a marriage was threatened, both parties were wrong. I took that message very much to heart, worked on my own issues and found my husbands were not that awful. Since we are still together I guess it worked.
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