[xXLifeAsWeKnowItXx]

My boyfriend and I have been together for one year now, but I am beginning to feel like I can't make him happy or satisfy him. For our anniversary we has some work to do, but once we are done he spent the next 12 hours playing video games. We have much money so I don't expect anything, but we didn't even cuddle and watch a movie (even after he said we would). Also he seems to be getting annoyed more often, he says he is fine and either carries on with what seems like moping around or he will bring up something that bothers him.

One more thing, I know I don't have much of a sex drive (though he knows that if he wanted sex, I am still more than willing to have sex because it has been a while) but when we do have sex, he doesn't finish.

I feel like I can't do anything right. Is this how I should feel? I've already talked to him about most of this. What do you think?

[madisgram]

i'm not sure but do you find this relationship a healthy match for you? and...

I feel like I can't do anything right.

you're not responsible for internalizing any blame, imho. relationships that work require "give and take" from both.

[xXLifeAsWeKnowItXx]

I don't know if we have a healthy relationship or not, but it is definitely the best relationship I have ever had. Which scares me because I am afraid I am going to lose him. Some one once gave me advice on relationships "If they don't fulfill the 3 F's of a relationship then it wont work out... Feed, Finance, and F**K." Of course, the love and interest has to be there.

[bswc]

He needs to take you and your relationship seriously. I dated a guy once and every anniversary or Valentines Day he would insist we stay in and cook a romantic meal. In the end i cooked while he watched tv...he ate and went to sleep. Perhaps you should let him know how you feel rather than allow it to fester into a potential fight. You deserve to be treated better

[AAAAA]

Um, does he have an ED? Men do not like to talk about these issues and if there are problems with his plumbing working correctly they would much rather escape into a video game and avoid sex rather than admit that there is an issue. Cuddling can lead to intimacy and he may be just trying to avoid that entirely. It more than likely has absolutely nothing to do with you.

My husband has diabetes and when that started affecting things below the belt he honestly believed I didn't notice! Or he hoped I didn't.

What did he say when you talked to him about it?

[xXLifeAsWeKnowItXx]

Originally Posted by AAAAA

Um, does he have an ED?

Lol no, he has no problems with an ED. He masturbates daily. And this is one thing that i havent talk to him about. not sure how to bring it up.

[AAAAA]

Hmmm, he would rather masterbate than have sex? That's not good.

[RomanSunburn]

Just because this is the best relationship you've ever had doesn't mean you have to stay. If you feel like there is something lacking or that you cannot communicate with him, then remember who is your number one priority: You.

What have you talked to him about and how have those conversations gone? And my personal rule of thumb when it comes to sex is that if you can't talk about it, you shouldn't be having it. Relationships takes a lot of communication (and thus a lot of work on communicating...), so I would start there, with conversations that begin with I statements -- "I feel..." "I don't like..." "When you do .... I feel .... "

Good luck!

[xXLifeAsWeKnowItXx]

Thank you. Usually if I bring something up he says he will do his best to fix it. There have been a few things he has been doing better at. I can tell he is trying for a few issues and others it doesnt seem like he's tried at all.

[xXLifeAsWeKnowItXx]

but then again... I have started to notice that, though I still am sexually attracted to him but my bi sexuality has been leaning more towards women when it comes to sex.