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Oct 02, 2011, 02:15 AM
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Soooo I have an internet friend - we met at Secondlife and then continued talking of Yahoo and facebook for the last 2 years - he is in america - he has been very lonely so when he introduced me tosome of his new friends online one said they really liked himand wanted to meet
So i found out he liked her too but was shy - anyway - i gave him a little nudge and they have now met - are meeting at thsi very moment - she is staying with him for a couple of weeks My friend and I often finosh our conversations with I love you my friend - thats all it is friendship - there is never any chance i will get to meet him given my finanacial situation and other things ......  We have helped each other with psychological issues over the last two years and been there for each other in crisis.. Out of the blue I get a message fromt he girl saying i have to "BACK OFF" as I am "stepping on her toes " by saying i love you - I told her i tell my broters and sisters I love you and he is like a borther to me - and i said it seemed to be her insecurity talking and that i am no threat to her as we are only friends - she also got quite aggressive in her note to me saying she would protect him from me WT????? I can't tell my friend as I dont want to spoil it for him if he really likes her and he may not even believe me - he is very lonely and al i want is for him to be happy - i would prefer not to lose him as a friend as we have been through so much - we used to talk every day (type) but now .....I havnt heard for a week or so..... I had left a message saying i felt like a bit of a loser leaving messages when he hasnt replied and i got into trouble wiht the girl fro that too cos apparently that upset him So i sent him an apology if i had hurt him - I guess the way thigs are going ..I will lose my friend.... any thoughts? I dont understand jealousy - I dont have a jealous bone in my body, but maybe thats cos i'm not in a relationship...dunno........ Just makes me sad.....
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#2
Oct 02, 2011, 03:57 AM
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Oct 02, 2011, 06:05 AM
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Sorry about what is going on, phoenix7. Seems to me the ball is in his court. I would not be surprised if he contacts you again if his current relationship gets problematical.
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Oct 02, 2011, 06:13 AM
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Agree with Byzantine - it is his decision on how to proceed now. I don't think you were doing anything inappropriate. This new girl seems insecure and that is not your problem. He will have to deal with her as he chooses.
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Oct 03, 2011, 12:16 AM
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P7,
Byz prolly says it best ,> I would not be surprised if he contacts you again if his current relationship gets problematical. That would be my guess also. You have been a very great Friend and more than likely a confidant. Hard sometimes to have cyber peeps that you enjoy the company of in a friendship way , just to have another play the jelly card . .. P7, {{{{{{{{~Hugs~ }}}}}}}}}. |
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Oct 03, 2011, 12:39 AM
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Sorry for her insecurities, My guess is as soon as she go's home you will be hearing from him. If not O'Well you can do better. We are here for ya!
 p.s. He might be mad at you for introducing him to someone so insecure! lol! just kidding!
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#7
Oct 03, 2011, 01:53 AM
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thank you my friends
I really can see his side of it - I mean she is there and he is lonely and if they hit it off all well and good - and i would be happy for him - i dont think he should choose an internet friend over a possible life partner  I just miss my friend oh well - you're right - the balls in his court now and its been over emmmm..... counts on fingers lol about 8 days and no word - which is hard when you are used to speaking to someone everyday......sigh... Oh well i wil just have to be grateful for the times we shared and the help we gave each other Reason, Season, or Lifetime People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on. Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it. It is real. But only for a season. LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. — Unknown I am trying to be an adult about this ......but....I just want my friend back
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts its how many times you get back up! (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture )When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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Oct 08, 2011, 11:15 AM
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so i chatted wiht my friend on yahoo tonight - typed - and his gf was right there lol she must really be insecure ...made me cry,, but i did like she said i didnt say luv ya byeee no more love words
I dindt tell him ho9w i am or the hell i am getting from my ptsd at the moement lol so i guess like i told him - its all good thannks guys you tske care ok byeeee luv ya lol see i can say it here 
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts its how many times you get back up! (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture )When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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Oct 08, 2011, 12:13 PM
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Hey thanks for posting the reason season lifetime poem. I was just thinking about it today for someone else on here, I forget who now, but I didn't have a copy of it, I never realized it was that long. Anyway, what a coincidence I wanted it and here it is!
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Oct 09, 2011, 01:39 AM
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You can tighten up. And to say Love ya , bye, IMO , wouldn't be outta line. LOL. Just true. I really feel bad for ya , feeling hurt from this. Try not to let the PTSD let down creepies win though, Ok? Specialeffects Se. |
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Oct 11, 2011, 01:12 AM
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soo today he comes online and outs her on straight away and goes off to do stuff lol it just gets better and better lol
guess its just SSDD (same S**T different day lol ) cant work out whats worse staying or leaving - each is painful ... oh well... lets just let this thread die now - like my friendship lol
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts its how many times you get back up! (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture )When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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Oct 11, 2011, 01:23 AM
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Hang in there Phoenix7, I know I have friends that have come and gone that I don't understand WHY! but like the poem says it just happens I suppose? I am here for ya if you want to chat, I know it's not the same , but that is all I can offer.
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