[vaarier]

Feeling like giving up on everything, the girl I married and loved has ditched me, we have signed for divorce, she was living seperately for last 2yrs, but I was hoping that she will come back to me. Mistakes were made from both sides, maybe I have behaved with her rudely in the first few days of marriage, as it was arranged. She keeps on reminding me of old things and not ready to forget and move on.
I have never loved any girl in my life or never had girlfriends, I am 34 now, I am still begging her to come back to me and have agreed to all her conditions, but she seems to be stuck in the past and says she cannot get back to me. I am really heartbroken and finding it really hard to forget her. Have started antidepressants about a week ago. But dont have the motivation anymore, I had invested so much time, money and energy into the relationship and she has left me high and dry, dont know what to do, hoping that she changes her mind.

[vaarier]

Just hanging on for the sake of my parents and sister, otherwise have thought of ending it all several times.

Hello, vaarier. You are grieving.

[vaarier]

I am really struggling to forget her, my mind says let her go but my heart says that she is the one for me and that I love her, we had some good times together. Just hoping and praying that someone puts some sense into her.

[Leed]

I'm sorry your marriage is breaking up, but it isn't going to do you any good to keep hoping she'll come back -- it looks as tho she has her mind made up. By continuing to hold onto hope, you're just kidding yourself -- and making the depression much worse.

There IS someone else out there for you -- you will find another love. You have to be open to it. Plus you can use this as a learning experience so that the same mistakes aren't made the next time. Hopefully the next marriage will NOT be arranged! I hope you will have a say in it.

In the meantime, mingle with your friends. Meet new people. You're still young -- have a bit of fun. I wish you the very best. Take care. Hugs, Lee

[vaarier]

Thanks Leed,
She made it more painful in the sense that she made me wait for 2 yrs before deciding on Divorce. we stayed together just for 6 months, only the first couple of weeks of marriage was any good.
After that she decided she cant live with me and so went away to study further and we did not meet during this time and suddenly comes up with divorce

[vaarier]

feeling ups and downs, but slowly i am getting used to the fact that my wife does not need me.