[LoveHopeStrength14]

I don't miss my ex or anything about the relationship. I am over the heartbroken stage. I am relieved that I am no longer in that relationship and even though it was 2 years of my life I am grateful that it wasn't 5 or 10 years of my life. Its been about 4-5 months since we've broken up and haven't seen the guy or spoke to him. When I am reminded of him I become angry. It puts me in a bad mood. Does this mean I haven't yet moved on? I feel angry and begin to think about what a waste of time it was with him. I start to get mad and disappointed in myself bc I should have know better and how can I let myself get so lost in that ugly mess of a realtionship. It gets really bad when I start to feel shame when I think about the relationship. Feeling used and unloved is hard to ignore. Its not "him" that I'm thinking about but I think about the feelings I felt in the relationship.

I thought I was moving on and doing so well but when things triggers me it makes me feel I'm taking 2 steps back. I thought I was doing so good.

[Leed]

It might help to know that you aren't the only one who luckily got out of a bad relationship. I think alot of us have gone thru something like that. Give yourself permission to move on. The only reason this should make you mad is IF you do it again! LOL As long as you learned from this experience, the time was well spent.

Don't let him OR the relationship live rent-free in your head. There are more pleasant things to think about. If something triggers you again, refuse to think about it and jump to something else. Take care & God bless! Hugs, Lee

Hello, LoveHopeStrength14.

http://www.helpguide.org/topics/grief.htm

[laamem]

Oh I have been there! I was in a similar relationship that left me feeling the same way. It wasn't until I finally decided to face my anger and disappointment that I have been able to move on. So here is what I did and I hope it helps..
1.) Absolutely think of only you and what your feelings were and are now.
2.) Ask yourself the tough questions and really answer them!!!
3.) Find strength in your weakness, you are only human after all.
4.) When you're ready you must forgive him and yourself for all that happened.

Lastly, remember things like this happen so we can improve and evolve ourselves! Take this challenge in stride, be patient and polite to yourself in your process. You will get there! The longer you just wait for it to fix itself the longer you will be trapped in your past! Good luck!

Originally Posted by laamem

Oh I have been there! I was in a similar relationship that left me feeling the same way. It wasn't until I finally decided to face my anger and disappointment that I have been able to move on. So here is what I did and I hope it helps..
1.) Absolutely think of only you and what your feelings were and are now.
2.) Ask yourself the tough questions and really answer them!!!
3.) Find strength in your weakness, you are only human after all.
4.) When you're ready you must forgive him and yourself for all that happened.

Lastly, remember things like this happen so we can improve and evolve ourselves! Take this challenge in stride, be patient and polite to yourself in your process. You will get there! The longer you just wait for it to fix itself the longer you will be trapped in your past! Good luck!

Wonderful answer to a question we are all faced with at one point. I try to keep people at a distance because once I get involved letting go is very painful. It feels as if I had someone surgically removed from my body and the scar is still healing.

When a relationship ends, it always ends badly. I never heard of a happy breakup.