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Oct 03, 2011, 02:39 PM
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I used to have loads of frinds.....LOADS, of CLOSE friends.
I am a great friend. I listen and give advice, i am funny, honest, loyal.....i know i am a great friend..... But 2 years ago i had the biggest betrayel by my friends. i wont go into it but it was bad......i dont express my full feelings anymore- i don't tell 100 percent whats wrong, because now i have trust issues i guess... but i am still a great friend. i cant have freidns over because my mother is ill My depression has left me being unsocial- well, i still talk and laugh and chill with them like normal, but i dont go to social events as much anymore- i dont enjoy them. I try and try, i try so hard to keep friends, i think i cant because of them not being able to come over, because i dont go out and party and stuff....and heck, prabaly also bacuase i have trust issues now. But i still try and tell myself, you are a great friend, you are doing the best you can...... but i figured out today, the couple friends i do have, dont value me as much as i do them. they have closer, more important friends than me. i have no one. except for my mom and dad. its so hard, becausei have so much to give, and i dont do anything to make them hate me, or not like me, i try my best- and i AM a great friend.......but i just can't keep friends. I know i have been saying i am a great friend.....but obviously the problem is me.....i am nothing. i am not important enough to remember to text, i am not important enough to remember not interrupt me, and i am not important enough to be friends with. i am alone. and i hate it..... i wish i had a best friend- like on the sisterhood of the traveling pants!! but nonetheless......i am not important. so for the rant....but i just had to get it out....becausei am suffocating in this endliss friendship cycle, and i cant take losing another so called friend...... please, advice....help!  <------ thats what i want....Oh yeah!!! i forgot, in my relationships i was totally (now i have learned) selfless. i never did anyting for me, only for my freidns. but i have also learned thati it is ok to do stuff for yourslef......but is it wrong to want somone to be that way for me?? Last edited by FloatLikeAButterfly; Oct 03, 2011 at 02:53 PM. Reason: forgot to add...... |
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Oct 03, 2011, 03:16 PM
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float like butterfly
I do not have friends eather, my family is no functional and I leave in other country. But I think if we are here we can find friends here. How do you feel about it. I think it could be helpful to write how your friends betrayed you. You will find people to whom happened a same nasty staff. Take care mediator |
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Oct 03, 2011, 09:54 PM
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i have no friends either.. i dont know how to meet new people. i have communication issues. i just dont know how to do it.. i cant. no matter how bad i want to. i only have one friend.. from high school but i'm messing that up because i never call him or go to see him. but he is very loyal.. still calls me up.. even after months of no contact.
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Oct 08, 2011, 08:55 PM
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I don't really have friends either. Although it may not be the same as a friend in person, I would love to get to know you and be a friend. I say it is better than nothing.
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Oct 10, 2011, 05:10 AM
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Oct 10, 2011, 12:13 PM
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well i think u need new friends and ditch ur so called other friends. i had the same problem too always gave everything i had and didnt really get anything in return. sometime u gotta make changes with the people you do associate with, its not always you. and dont change who u are to please others be u. having trust issuses is normal it takes time to heal so take ur time.
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Oct 17, 2011, 10:10 AM
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time by time I am having the same problem.FloatLikeButterfly the problem isn't in you.As I understood you are very caring and good to others.you have not met good people who could be a good friend.kind person always can be a good friend.you know you had better not to have friends only for having them.you don't need a friend who you can just have fun because a friend like that will leave you anytime when you feel depressed.by the way I HAVE A GREAT IDEA.LET'S BECOME FRIENDS ME FLOATLIKEBUTTERFLY MEDIATOR BROMETHEUS OURLADYSTEARS ALLIWANTISLOVE.AND WE WILL BE 6 FRIENDS.WHAT WILL YOU SAY???
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Oct 20, 2011, 06:17 PM
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There are many people that feel this way; I often do too. I've realized though that it is better to have a few close friends that you know you can depend on, rather than having a lot of "so called friends" that you can't trust. Good friends are very hard to find, but eventually, you'll find the person/people you click with. Don't let the past get in the way of your new relationships with people. To make truly good friends, you have to learn to trust them. It's difficult to make friends if you don't socialize a lot, so maybe attending some social events would help you out a little bit. I wish the best to you
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